I was married at the young age of 19. Yup, I know… besides possibly setting a new record… I am also “crazy.” But, don’t worry, you don’t need to tell me that, I already know. In fact, I’ve heard it all:
“Didn’t you just get out of high school?”
“It was just yesterday that you were in diapers!! You’re just a baby!”
“Don’t you think you should date more before making such a big decision?”
“Are you sure about this? It’s a lot of responsibility.”
“Oh wow, engaged? Wait… Really? But you’re only 19.”
“Are you even old enough to sign marriage certificate?”
“Are you pregnant or something?!”
“How do you know he’s what you want? You haven’t even tested the waters!”
“You’re too young to know what real love is.”
And perhaps the most common statement of all:
“Don’t you think you’ll regret not living up your single years?”
Followed by:
I wish I waited a bit longer to get married and just let myself have fun. You can’t take back these years, you’re giving them up to get married, you can wait you know.”
To all those people who doubted my decision and told me I was “giving it up”.
You were absolutely right.
I gave up my heart. The moment I said “I Do” my love was no longer my own. I gave another imperfect human being the ability to take me higher than I’ve ever been… But also the power too crush me to a million little pieces.
I gave up my privacy. I went home on June 8th in someone else’s car, to sleep in someone else’s bed, and breath someone else’s air. It would never, from that moment on, be just “me” anymore. It was now me and him, him and me. It was now our family, our home, our decisions. It’s funny though, because the moment “I” became a “we” I realized what it really meant to be happy.
I gave up my name. The name I was known for my whole life, didn’t define me anymore. I would be known by his name now. I was his: to cherish, love, hold, laugh with, cry with, provide for, and protect.
I gave up my secrets. My weaknesses, my thoughts, my mistakes, the things I hid from the world, someone now would know. But, someone would also know exactly how to help me, love me, and comfort me. Someone would know me so well that they would know what I needed without me ever asking. I would lose all the hidden parts of me, and gain a perfect understanding and love from someone else.
I gave up my agenda. I would have to cancel plans, rearrange my schedule, work longer hours, go to the grocery store when the car was available, and cook dinner instead of taking a nap. And as the clock was ticking I would come to understand the reason I was given time in the first place.
I would give up dating different people. I no longer was available for anyone to take out. I was done meeting “new people” and “potential spouses” because I had found mine. Yes, I could have dated more, yes, there’s lots of great people out there that I didn’t meet, but no, there’s no one else as perfect for me as my husband. And yes, I can know that even though I dated less years than most people and yes I did know that when I picked him, which was WHY I picked him.
I gave up awkward dinner conversations and replaced them with evenings laying in my hubby’s arms, with a round belly and no make up… sporting his sweats and an oversized T-shirt I won at a basketball game, eating microwave popcorn and watching netflix and feeling more beautiful than a celebrity on the red carpet.
I gave up my money, my time, my need to be right, my stubbornness, my life, my whole self.
And yes I did give up YEARS of my life that I can NEVER get back or change.
BUT, the difference between me and you is I don’t regret one day, minute or second of those years.
If anything… I wish I had began this incredible journey called marriage sooner, because nothing I have ever done, or could ever do, has filled me with as much love, happiness and peace as this. Yes it can be harder than I ever imagined it would be and I am challenged every day to be a better more selfless person than I am, but my life has taken on more meaning than I knew it could and I have become more complete than I thought was possible.
And if given the choice… I would do it all over again.
I would “give it all up” in a heartbeat.
Thank you for writing this! I was married at 19 to and got the same questions! We have not been married for 9 years and it still was the best thing I have ever done!
Thank you! After writing this post so many people like you have told me how they were married at 19 as well! True love doesn't have an age limit! Congrats on 9 years! That's awesome!
I also was married at 19 so was my husband and I would not change a thing. We are close to celebrating our 13 yr anniversary.
I met my husband when I was about to turn 19. We dated 2 1/2 years & he was the only one I ever dated. I DO NOT regret one moment!! We have been married 6 years this year and I can't imagine my life without him. He is and will remain the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I met my husband at 14 married him at 20 and we had a son at 21 and I wouldn't change one second of our life. We will be celebrating 5 years married this May and I hope God blesses us with many many more!
What an awesome article! Thanks! I got married when I was 16 and my hubby was 22. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary. Like you said marriage is not always easy but its so worth it!
This is really cute! I was married at 16, yes I said 16! Lol. Although I was in fact pregnant we still planned to wed before the unexpected pregnancy, we just bumped the date a little… but now having 9, 8, and 7yr old kids we are still going strong celebrating this December our 9 year wedding anniversary as well! I wouldn't change a thing either, so congrats and you can't make everyone happy, everyone has to try and give their to sense but in the end we are statistics proved wrong! 😉
Great article! I got married at 18. Funny we had the same question except it was 35 years ago this month! I wouldn't change it one bit.
My husband and I have been together since we were 13. We started dating in 7th grade and recently got married last month after 5 years of dating. I will be 19 and he will be 20 this year. I was told all of the same stuff and people had me thinking I was doing something wrong with my life. We are madly in love and I wouldn't change a thing. I would have done it sooner!
I also got married at 19. We only dated a week before he proposed! We had our first child when I was 21! Our second at 23! March 1st has been 6 years of marriage for us and I still love him as much today as I did March 1st 2008!
i only knew my hubby for 3 months before we go married we have 3 kids 1 alive one in heavan and one on the way and this oct 28 we will be married 4 years i was asked are you sure? he is disabled. marriage is supposed to be a rollercoster with ups and downs and curve balls and i would not change a thing
Awesome! I had a son at 16 and married my then boyfriend at 17! I was blessed to plan a huge wedding and have so many people who supported me! We are now going on three years!
I am about to get married this October. I will 19 in May 🙂 I have been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years!! Can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him <3
I love this article 😀
i got married at the age of 19 and my wife was 18. the last 6 months have been the best of my life!
I was married at 17 and never regret one day. I been married to the same man for 20 years and still going strong. Three wonderful kids and a wonderful husband.
Yup also got married at 19 and been married 9 years. Best decision of my life! 🙂 I think if you go into it truly knowing what you are doing there is no room for doubts. I got every question you did and now we laugh about it. I visited my college one day to tell one of my friends I was engaged and she actually chased me out of college (while I was with my then fiancé) screaming 'Don't do it!!!!!' I was so embarrassed! But here we are 9 years later and people are changing their comments 🙂
I was married at 19 & I do regret it. Not because I was young but because of who I married. He was 15 yrs older than me and I was his 3rd wife & he already had 3 kids with no intentions of having more. After 7 yrs I finally realized we did not want the same things in life so we agreed to divorce. I was 26 then. At 28 I married again and we will be celebrating 10 yrs this may. Marriage will work if you want it to. Age doesn't matter.
My wife and I got married at 19 as well. In July this year we will have been married for 3 years. I have the most adorable two year old daughter and awesome 5 month old son. I wouldn't change any part of it for the world. Very encouraging article.
I graduated from High School in May and married in Sept. the same year. I was 18 when I married my soul mate, When God gives you the right one you just know it. We will celebrate out 41st anniversary in Sept., I was blessed with 3 sons and all of the them know that I love their POP with all my heart.
I was 17 and he was 23…. lol. … he got some ribbing for robbing the cradle, but 6 kids (2 sets of twins in there),the death of our 1st born 🙁 and 21 years later, we're still here:) It's had its bumps….lol….. but whose marriage hasn't? But we just hada date night last night and confirmed in each other how much we fit. (Now that it's been said, I hope my children never find out how young I was! Haha)
My husband and I married when I was 18 1/2. In February, we marked our 39th anniversary. My parents married on mom's 18th birthday. They just this past week celebrated their 59th anniversary.
I also got married at 19 but my husband was much older then me he was 35 at the time and i always got asked these same questions i we have been together for 6yrs and married for 5 yrs and have 3 beautiful children together who are 6,4,and 9 months and i dont regret getting married at 19 my husband,besides the kids were the best thing that ever happened to me
Married at 19 and celebrated 32 years this past November…..Two children ages 29 and 22, Yep tha'ts right did not "Have to get married" because we were expecting…LOL….."Had to get married" because we were in love. Both my kids actually married young as well…son was 21 and daughter was 19. Marriage is work but age has nothing to do with it…it is hard at any age…it is commitment that makes it work not waiting till you are older. Best wishes for a lifetime of Love and memories shared with the man of your dreams.
I want to thank you for writing this amazing article! My boyfriend is stationed in Alaska, while I am living in Texas going to school. May 30th I will be graduating. Turning 19 in a few days too. The army's rules are that you can live with anyone unless you're married to them. My problem is that I don't want to wait anymore. I want to be with him everyday of my life. It's hard waiting around not getting to see him. I been waiting for him for 2 years. Now, the choice I made is that I will be marrying him the in July this year. People tell me I am only marrying him because I want to get away from everything here in my town, but no. I really do love him. Nobody can take me away from him or tell me what to do with my life. I just want to thank you for posting this. It made my life somewhat less stressful. 🙂
GREETINGS everyone out there.. My name is Sarah Gomez FROM CANADA i will never forget the help Prophet Ayelala rendered to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how Prophet Ayelala help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of Prophet Ayelala i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours. He told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give Prophet Ayelala a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using Prophet Ayelala to save my marriage. Contact him via Email: ( Ayelala7demons@gmail.com ) Or Reach him on whatsapp: +2347031894318
GREETINGS everyone out there.. My name is Sarah Gomez FROM CANADA i will never forget the help Prophet Ayelala rendered to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how Prophet Ayelala help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of Prophet Ayelala i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours. He told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give Prophet Ayelala a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using Prophet Ayelala to save my marriage. Contact him via Email: ( Ayelala7demons@gmail.com ) Or Reach him on whatsapp: +2347031894318
GREETINGS everyone out there.. My name is Sarah Gomez FROM CANADA i will never forget the help Prophet Ayelala rendered to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how Prophet Ayelala help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of Prophet Ayelala i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours. He told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give Prophet Ayelala a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using Prophet Ayelala to save my marriage. Contact him via Email: ( Ayelala7demons@gmail.com ) Or Reach him on whatsapp: +2347031894318
My husband and I were 18 & 19 when we got married. We have now been married 26 years. To be honest, I wish we would have had some counseling before we got married, our idea's of what marriage looked like were different, but we have persevered and love each other. We still have big disagreements on how money should be spent, but we have raised two wonderful children. With hard work, I believe with all my heart that two teens can be successful in marriage. But I just really suggest that you have some life experiences (travel and do some things independently first). Also, our solid foundation was a belief that there is something greater than us (we call him God), and that you just don't give up – work hard to be better and make things better. I'm thankful I found this article.
Sorry I wrote this on my phone I meant, We have NOW been married for 9 years 🙂
This is Wonderful! I didn't get the your too young stuff before I was married because where I come from it's the norm to get married young, but I got it all the time after I was married and moved to where my husband was from, and four years and two kids later I love him even more now than I did then! Thanks for writing this and putting it so beautifully!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I love hearing success stories like yours because it proves how marrying the right person is much more important than the time in your life you marry. 🙂
Very well said. I was married very young too by today's standards, at 21. I not only gave all those things up but was glad to. I also took on the life of a military wife. Now 23 yrs. later I have loved every second of our life together and anticipate the years to come.
This is the best!! I will be twenty when I get married in July, and my fiancé and I get those questions all the time. Everyone thinks we are crazy to get married in college. And, when we got engaged, I got a whole lot of "but you are still a teenager!" comments. We have been together for three and a half years, and I know that marriage will be amazing! Thank you for writing all of the things I think time someone tells me that I am "wasting my youth" by marrying young.
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Congrats on your engagement! Sounds like you both will be wonderful together! Being married is the best, I wish you the very best! Thank you for your appreciation of this post, it means a lot.
My fiance and I have been together going on give years this December. I had only been 14 for 3 months and 3 days when I met him. The day we met our relationship status and hadn't ended. Two years into our relationship when I was 16, on new years day he kissed me as the ball dropped and he dropped to his knee at the exact same time and asked me to be his forever. I said yes, situations and money have been hard and our dates have changed a few times but we are still together and more in love then the day we met our the day he proposed. We plan to have children, four to be exact, and I'm the youngest in my family, he is the oldest in his, and everyone thinks we are insane, and doubts our love. I've heard everything you said and more, "you won't last a year, or less." And "it's just an obsession" but I know that it will work, and I've dated others as has he, but the thing is, that no one ever fit me so completely as he does. I spent my entire high school experience being the luckiest girl Alive because I already found my love, and we are not giving up on this and I know that you may be able to help skew everyone that just because some didn't work out, not all young marriages will fail. – nikki gantt
Amazing. This is what I love to see. I have been with my husband for 7 years in October, and we just recently got married in 2013. I am 20 years old. No matter your age, you can find you love. 14-99, it doesn't matter. And this proves how amazingly happy you are.
Congrats on your 7 years together! I totally agree that love comes at all ages and stages! Thanks for taking the time to read, and share your story on my blog.
In Love With This! I got married at 17..It was 12 days before my 18th birthday (and I was not pregnant). It was the only time do it between schools in the Navy. I know I was super young and so many people told don't do it. We had the support of our parents though because they knew we truly loved each other. He is in the Navy and we've traveled so many amazing places and experienced so much together. We've also grown so much as people too. I love that we got married young because that means we get to find ourselves together. We get to make mistakes together and we always have someone there to hold our hands. Being a Navy wife is hard especially with deployments but that makes me stronger and and our marriage stronger. We've been together for 4 years and our 2 year anniversary is coming up in July. I've had friends from high school ask me if I regret it yet and its a big fat NO! I'm 19 living in Hawaii with my best friend and love of my life experiencing the world and supporting ourselves completely. What other 19 year old can say that? We are so blessed. I can't wait for the future! Stories like this make me proud to be young wife!
I love what you said about finding ourselves together. I could not agree more! I think that for me, and it sounds like you too, growing together has been a positive thing. I can't think of how much more difficult going through hard growing experiences on my own would be. Thanks for sharing this with me!
You have a very parallel life to mine. I got married at 18 to my Navy man. He had just finished training and was headed to his first tour. We moved to Hawaii less than a month after marrying. That extra challenge of being a military spouse can really strengthen you and your marriage. This June we will celebrate 18 years and every time he comes home it feels like we are newlyweds!
I got married at 17, my honey was almost 22. We had the support of my family and somewhat of his. He joined the Air Force (we were in Hawaii for 8 years) and almost ten years later went civilian.
We have 6 children and are now living in Utah…and have 22+ years of life, love, laughter, trials, heartache, passion, dreams crushed and dreams reached, under our belts as a married couple. I do have regrets…I won't lie. I wish I would have finished my biology degree before the age of 40, I wish I would have learned to be more independent earlier in life, but I married my best friend. We grew up together in marriage. We had only known one another for 3 months when we married. I look at my honey now and I just can't imagine my life any other way, with any other man. My man that traces my stretch marks and says I'm gorgeous, who has spent hours and hours over the years cleaning up bodily fluids from difficult pregnancies, flu's, etc, who cooks and cleans and does laundry when my autoimmune disease comes out of remission. I have the most perfect man for me, that I met in a small-ish town in Kansas. He took me to the LDS Denver temple to get married and life has been fill of ups and downs since. I love him with all that my soul has to offer and he does everything he can to allow me to fly. I am now finishing that biology degree…doing that with having my family is hard. We have wonderful children full of imperfections, but they are perfect for us. I'm so glad my dad handed me over to this man who was just a kid. I honestly can't imagine my life without my honey. He is my safety and security. He has taught me to soar…to be the best I can.
There are way worse things than getting married young. 😉
I recently got married. Im 18 and he's 22. Hes navy and is stationed at great lakes. Its amazing hearing others stories and gives me the strength to get through my day at college with all thr shocked looks when people realize I am married. We have been together almost 4 years now and its been the best. This article is the best, it completely explains my feelings.
Love this! I was also married at 19, and even though I'm LDS there were many people who didn't understand. I couldn't agree more with what you said. When you've found someone you love, who you want to hold and cherish for all of time and eternity, then what are you waiting for? Love it love it!
Thanks for your thoughts! I am LDS as well, but still got these comments. I always took marriage seriously though because of my belief that it last forever, and I think that also helped people understand that when I made the choice, even though young, I was in it for the long haul. 🙂
I'm LDS too! I'm 19 & I just got married in December 2013. It was surprising that I had people ask me the same things even though I went to BYU-I & most mormons get married young. I've been with my husband for 5 years now, & everyone in our ward was still surprised! I even had some people question whether or not we were actually worthy to get married in the temple!! Rude. But we love our new life together!(: I've learned not to let other people dictate your happiness.
I'm LDS as well, lol. Getting married actually made me really nervous! I met my husband at 14, when my family moved into the ward, and my husband would drive me to seminary every morning for a year until his family moved a couple years later. Though, that year we found out we liked each other and had a thing, but weren't dating (I was 15, and he was about 17-18 at the time). We both got back into contact on the last year of his mission and found out he was going to BYU-I as well. We dated long distance when he got off his mission, and when we both went to school, dated for a year, (we were in the same ward, and lived a five min walk away from each other!) and got engaged in June. Married in October 2012. My hubby was 23 and I was 20. I'm on my way to 22 now, but this year and a quarter with my husband has been so wonderful. I don't regret marrying him even if I was getting tremendous cold feet out of it. Though, I do admit to getting lonely and stir-crazy because friends come and go here at BYU-I all too quickly… And my friends and family are all back in MI! But my husband tends to fix that, even if it's just for a little while, and I'm grateful to have someone who loves me so much. ;v;
Im LDS as well. Been married 4 years (on Sept 3 anyway) and I was 18 years old. He was 23. Im 22 and he is 27 now. No kids yet but planning one soon. Get a lot of glaring eyes because we have been married 4 years and don't have kids.
I was also 19 on my wedding day, only 18 when I got engaged. We've been married almost 8 months now and are expecting our first baby in May…wouldn't trade it for anything in the world! We also had a lot of people questioning our sanity for marrying so young, but we felt it was what God wanted us to do 🙂 we shouldn't be afraid, no matter how many people try to discourage us, because God is the one who brings young couples together in His timing. Thank you for posting this, I hope it encourages young couples out there who are considering marriage in the very near future 🙂
You hit it on the head when you said, "we shouldn't be afraid, no matter how many people try to discourage us, because God is the one who brings young couples together in His timing." I firmly believe that if you follow God, you can't go wrong. Thank you for all you said.
Thanks for this post! I also got all of these and more. I started chasing my husband when I was 17 (about a month before graduation). A year and a half later at 19, we were married for eternity. Despite the fact that he's 11 years older than me, we knew it was right. We've been married for just over a year and we still get funny looks and comments, but people try to bite their tongues a little bit after you're married. We had to stop caring what people thought a long time ago. We actually love to announce our age difference whenever we meet someone new because the reactions are hilarious. Most men will glare at my husband. Most women will look shocked for a second and then say, "Age doesn't matter anyway." Now we're expecting our first baby, which is a much better ice-breaker than the age thing. We are just grateful to have each other. We laugh together, cry together, play together, work together, and we are growing together. I wouldn't have it any other way!
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Every person is different, and every couple has their own unique story. I loved hearing about yours, just shows me again that there are many successful stories of people who have married young. Congrats on your baby!
I love this! Soo sweet!
I was married at 18 and we're celebrating our 20th anniversary this year. We have 10 kids and life is amazing! There are hard moments, but we get through them together! I don't regret any of it. I would absolutely do it all again!
20 years and 10 kids! Wow that's outstanding. Congrats! I can't wait to look back on many years of happiness like you are able to now. Thanks for sharing this and reading my blog.
I love this! Thank you for writing this, I am 19 and my fiance and I are planning a wedding this July. We have been together for 4 years and I'd give everything up just to be with my bestfriend.
Thank you! Congrats on your engagement and upcoming wedding. Being married is the best and I am always so happy to hear when someone is taking that big step. I wish you the best. Thanks for sharing your story with me.
Many years ago when we were married, we were asked many of those questions and more. I was 18 when we got married. We have been married now for 29 years. I wouldn't trade my experience for anyone's. We have 4 wonderful children who have brought us so much joy, and a few sorrows. The good times definitely outweigh the hard times. Marriage is hard work sometimes, but oh the happiness it can bring on a daily basis. Absolutely no regrets here. Life is good!
I love hearing people comment on how long they have now been married, even though they were married young. 29 years and going strong, very impressive. I agree that good times will always outweigh the bad. If you look for the good, their is so much to be grateful for in a marriage. Thank you for sharing the joy marriage has brought you with me.
What a wonderful read! It is not an easy thing to be married so young, but I believe that there can be more grace and mercy for each other. Being so young and married. I married at 18 years old and all of this was true for me as well. One difference I believe happened with all the questions coming my way was that I was completely certain of what I was choosing to do with my life. Being constantly asked made me extremely sure of how I felt and the choice I was making was a lifer choice. So when the problems came up I knew I was going to work through them not run from them. Year 7 was the hardest and every couple has that time I believe, however we both decided when we were that young couple that this is what we both want for our entire life. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary and the military has us apart right now, but when the other half of me returns I cant wait to be in his arms again continuing our life long journey.
You are right, it is not easy, but it is well worth it in my eyes. I love a couple things you said. First, that you have more grace and mercy for each other. That couldn't be more true! Because neither of you have established you own system and home, or even daily routine, individually you get to together. I think that makes the transition to marriage much easier! Second, I loved how you said all the questions helped you realize even more than you did before that this is what you wanted. That is a great way to look at it, and looking back I feel like that happened to me as well. Thank so much for your thoughts on this.
I was 17 when I got married an heard all those things plus more even my family talked down to me about it, but me an my husband will be married four years in April an I wouldn't change a thing we have three amazing little boys that we adore! An yes it can be hard an the first few years seem the hardest adjusting to it not just being you, but it can be done of you work at it!
I still don't understand why its such a big deal to get married young because in the olden days it was normal to be married off at 15 now its a crime to get married young! People are always saying it needs to go back to the good old days heck were just trying to take them back there lol.
Congratulations on getting married an don't let anyone stand in your way!
Why do all the girls with this mentality have to be so hard to find?
They are out there! Keep looking, I've learned the best things often are hard to find, but worth the effort in the end!
Got married when I was 20 and my wife was 21. Later this year will be 15 years for us. We waited until nearly 30 to have kids, now we have a 4 and year old who are the loves of our lives. We were even from different countries (heck, continents) and had to spend a lot of time apart during our "dating" years. (between 17 and 20). Sometimes you just know. I think sometimes people are threatened by "young love" because most of them aren't mature enough at that age to actually love another human being that deeply. People mature at different ages and as I get older I realize many people are well into their 30s or older before they can drop that teenage ego enough to make the necessary sacrifices for a real relationship to work.
I LOVE your story because it shows how much you had against you, yet you held on to each other through it all and here you are 15 years later. I love that. Thanks for sharing that with me.
Me n mine have been together since we were 17 & 18, had our first baby when i was 19 he was 20, married at 21 & 22, have now been together ten years and married six of them, having our third and last baby in october….we knew we were it for each other back when we were 17 & 18, nobody else can tell you when the right time or age is to get married, when u know, u know 🙂
I agree, when you know, you know. That is how it was for me, I knew the very first date we went on. I felt like I had known him forever. It's a great feeling to experience that type of love. I'm glad you found it for yourself. 🙂
Love this! What a great post. 🙂
Thank you!
Mariah Hopkins
http://www.fashionbymariah.com/2014/03/neon-loving.html
Thank you!
Absolutely loved this! I was married at 19 as well and I would do it all over again!
Thank you! I'm amazed by how many people were married the same age as me.
I love this and I agree completely! I was married at 18, 2 months after my high school graduation and it was such a gift from God…each night my husband and I say how lucky we are to have been able to start marriage as soon as we did! I got the same comments (especially the "are you pregnant?!" comment, and no I was not 😉 ) but I also got a lot of support from people who had done the same thing and are now in some of the most successful marriages I've ever seen!
Thanks for writing this 🙂
Meagan Palmer
http://www.noveltiesandtrinkets.com
It's awesome to hear of so many successful marriages like yours, that came after a teenage wedding. I feel like in many cases young couples are so successful because they have such a fresh and genuine love for each other. I love how you and your husband express your gratitude for you marriage so often, so cute!
Beautiful!! I got married at 20, this year makes 3! .. people always told us we should enjoy life first then think about settling down. Seeing how sad others were in their marriage was scary, but I'm happy with my decision and would do it all over again. Married to my best friend, we travel the world together, couldn't have asked for a better soulmate! <3
I don't know about you, but I "enjoy my life" so much more now than I did while single. If anything, marriage has enhanced the enjoyment in my life, never dulled it.
So I turned 20 this past December and I'm getting married this August. My fiancé will also be 20 by then. I am not giving up my life! I'm sharing all of my experiences with summertime who means the world to me. I can't imagine a better way to take on Europe than with the person I met when I was 15 and haven't wanted to spend a day without since. We're making a Before the Babies Bucket List we're still going to have adventure. I usually shut people up this way.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! Like you said, there's no better way to experience life than with your best friend! Best of wishes to you.
I was married at 16 and told I was making a mistake well I don't think I did 25 years later 4 kids and 3 grand kids and I'd do it all again the same way. I love being married to my husband and our life is grate raised 4 grate boys.
Sounds like you knew what you were doing, and the world has 7 more people on it thanks to you and your husbands union. So great to hear your story. Thanks for the read, and comment.
I got married at 17 on March 7th 2013. We've past our one year mark and I couldn't be happier. He's the only one I could see myself being with. Thank you for writing this.
Thank YOU for your comment and appreciation of my story. And congrats on 1 year and many more to come!
Not quite a teenage wedding – but Queen Elizabeth II (then Princess Elizabeth) and Prince Philip were married when she was just 21, and they'd been exchanging goopy letters since she was 13 and he was 18.
Wow! I didn't know this! Thanks for sharing!
I was 18 when I got married (just a month-and-a-half shy of 19). I didn't personally hear any negative comments about getting married, but my mom and my sister heard them from everybody!! Of course the most common one was asking if I was pregnant (I wasn't).
We will celebrate 15 years this summer and we have 3 beautiful daughters (ages 12, 10 and 8). It has been quite the roller coaster for us, but we've grown together because of the hardships of marrying so young. (He was 22). Having someone with me through all of the ups and downs of young life was great! He helped me get through massage school and I've supported him through his bachelor's and master's degrees! It can be done!
Where there is a will, there will always be a way! One common misconception is that if you marry young, school is over. I have found that being in school and married has made things easier because I have someone to encourage and support me through it all. Like you said, it can be done. Thank you for proving that to me and everyone who will read your comment.
I love this article you wrote. I myself married the love of my life at 18 we have been together 6 years and have been married 3 years. I remember hearing those same questions and many more as my husband was a navy man. I don't regret one minute, not even a second that I've gotten to share with the wonderful man I call my husband.
I wish you many years of happiness.
Thank you for taking time not only to read, but also to comment on my blog. I loved reading your story and can feel your happiness when you describe your relationship. 🙂
This is the most beautiful, heart warming post I've ever read. This can show a lot of people that it's not ALWAYS bad to marry someone, like many people make it seem. I'm hoping to get married to my boyfriend, now father of my children. I want to give everything you gave to your husband, to my boyfriend. And not to mention, I am almost 19 as well and my boyfriend and I plan on getting married before our newborn arrives in October. Thank you for posting this. I really couldn't have said it better myself. (:
Wow. Thank you so much. Seriously, what you have written means a lot. I truly hope to covey through my blog how fun, and wonderful, and beautiful it is to have a family and be married. Knowing I have done that makes me so happy. Thank you for taking time to share your feelings with me. Best wishes on your hopes to get married soon, and on your baby!
it takes time for older people like me to realize that sometimes all young people need is to be given respect and a chance. i'm near 28, single, female and have a disability. i love single life but openly admit i want to find true love. honestly, i look up to my 21 year old best friend for that. it's odd b/c normally she looks up to me for going to school and living a ''normal'' life despite my disability. sometimes life is a struggle for both of us but her courage and smile keeps me going. honestly i was skeptical about her decision to marry so young at first, but i have always had one wish for her during the course of our friendship- to find true joy and to follow her heart on her own terms, not for others, even members of her family. her family doesn't always agree but i keep telling her they will come around eventually even though she doesn't care what people think. her baby is due oct 26, 2014 and she's planning to marry on july 19, 2014. i couldn't be more proud… as long as she is truly joyful, that's all that matters to me. that's all i have ever wanted for her. thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on my blog. Everyone is a different places and stages in life and I do believe that we are all given experiences and guidance on what we need to do and how we can influence others. It sounds like you have inspired others! It is awesome you support your friend, its nice to have support from others. I wish you the best as you continue your search for love. 🙂
I love this!! I was barely 20 when I got married and being LDS I didn't get many funny questions like that, but I did get some. Once in a while I will talk to someone who is shocked by how young I am. We haven't quite been married 2 years, but even still when people ask me if I regret it, but my answer is always an immediate no. I knew I was ready and I couldn't wait to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. I always like to think of what Harry says at the end of "When Harry Met Sally," "When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." It was definitely true for both of us. We were sealed in the temple for time and all eternity and I enjoy sharing everything with him. 🙂
Thank you for sharing this with me and all the others who will read it. I am LDS as well, but still got these comments, (something being LDS that I was not initially expecting!). Regardless, like you I knew I was ready and feel gratitude each day for my life. I love the quote you shared. I actually have not seen Harry Met Sally! But I am going to watch it now. 🙂
I just want to Thank You so much for writing this. Reading your story and everyone's comments are really helpful and I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. I thought we were crazy until I read this about how two people can just love and one day want to spend the rest their lives together. We try so hard to hold in all the thoughts of being married or having a family one day from each other because no one wants to get hurt unexpectedly. We liked each other for 3 years and didn't know it and now that we are finally together its been nothing but realness and i feel like he's my bestfriend that i want to spend the rest of my life with. We graduate from college in a year and he wants to go to the Air Force. My only question is when it came to you being young how'd did the whole parent situation go?
I know your question was directed to the original author, but I thought I'd pitch in – my dad was furious. He refused point blank to talk to my soon-to-be-husband when he called to ask for my parents' blessing. He almost didn't come to the wedding at all. BUT…. My mom understood that it was right for us, and managed to bring him around the week before the wedding. When people (including my dad) would say to her, "they're not grown up enough to get married!?!", her response was always "They are. And they will get to do the rest of their growing up together." That helped a ton. If you are 150% sure it is the right thing to do, parents and other loved ones will figure it out eventually. Good luck! :]
My parents were pretty supportive once we made the choice to get married. I remember initially as we were dating and it was obvious that things were getting more serious that my mom struggled a bit with the idea, first because yes… I was young, and second because I was the first of her children to get married. She did sit me down and ask me a lot of questions about our relationship. And she tried to limit the time I spent with him in the beginning because I think she knew marriage was getting closer and closer! My dad didn't say much to be honest. My parents always taught me that marriage would be the most important decision I would make, and I think they saw that even though my age was shocking, I was taking it seriously. What my mom always said was that once I chose to get married, she would do her best to support me and love my spouse however the situation turned out, because ultimately in the end it was my choice, if she agreed with it or not. Thankfully my parents really did like my husband and as we continue to do well in our marriage, and our love continues to manifest itself to them and others, they love him more and know that I picked someone perfect for me. Like Brittany said, "If you are 150% sure it is the right thing to do, parents and other loved ones will figure it out eventually." I wish you the best. Do your best at following what you feel is right and everything will work out. I truly believe that!
People should never shame someone for being married young. That said, people who don't want to be or choose not to shouldn't be called out either. They also grow, challenge themselves, and learn to rely on no one else; which can be as equally hard as being married. Congratulations on a happy marriage! I'm glad you shared your view I just hope everyone's decisions could be respected.
Thank you for your comment. I totally agree with you that everyone gets to choose what they do in regards to marriage. I would never advise someone to go and get marriage as a teenager just so they said they did. For me personally, getting married at 19, as well as the choice to even get married in the first place, was perfect for me. I know that many feel the same way as me about young love and marriage, and others don't, and some might just not find true love till later in life. And that's okay. I am a strong advocate for marriage because I know how much happiness it can bring to a life. But, I don't think there is one perfect way to do things or age to do them at when it comes to marriage, just that when it came to my marriage, this is what was perfect for me. 🙂 Thanks for taking time to read my blog!
I was Married just a few months after I turned 20 and my husband was a month away from turning 19. Yes I "robbed the cradle" I was told we would never make it that it wouldn't last long…we were just too young. This May we will celebrate 24 years of marriage and have never been more in love. I know what it is like to marry by best friend, my other half, my soul mate. I don't regret one minute of one day and am looking forward to 24 + more years. Thanks for sharing. Pam Hunter
Such a wonderful story. I love hearing how many people have been married 20+ years after getting married young! Me and my husband always joke about how he stole me from the cradle, but with all joking inside, we, like you, grow more in love each day and love this journey we are on. Thank you for reading and commenting so I (and others) could read your love story.
Kudos to the couples who made it work, but getting married young isn't necessarily a good thing. A good friend of mine got married at 18 and was pregnant a year later. Turns out she didn't know herself or her husband as well as she thought she did. Neither of them were ready for marriage, and it fell apart within months of their son being born. She is now 23 years old, on her second marriage, with two sons that both have different fathers. Waiting to get married is okay, too. I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and he is the love of my life. But I'm only 19, and we're not getting married until a few years after we graduate college. We both need some time to grow as individuals before we're ready to be married to each other. I'm not ready to make the sacrifices necessary in a marriage, and neither is he. We will be long distance for another three years, and after that, we'll get married. I'm in no rush – after all, if he's really the love of my life, he'll still be here in five or six years, regardless of whether there's a "miss" or a "mrs" in front of my name.
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Thank you for your comment! I totally agree that not everyone is ready for, or should get married as a teenager. Like you shared, sometimes it can be a very negative experience for people. I believe that at whatever age a person decides to marry, the real factor in whether the relationship will last comes down to commitment, both parties must be ready to do all it will take to make the marriage work. Some people are ready for this as a teenager, and others are not, it all just depends on an individual basis.
Great post! My love and I will have our 5th wedding anniversary this July. We've known each other for almost 10 years all together now. I was 18 (turned 19 a month later) and he was 20 when we eloped. It has been hard work. It's still hard. I wouldn't want a different life though. I definitely don't want to do life with any other person!
Glad to hear of your happiness 🙂 Congratulations on almost 5 months of being married! Are you still glad you eloped instead of having a big wedding ceremony? I'm still trying to figure out what I want!
You are right, it can be hard, but going through hard experiences with someone you care about strengthens a relationship so much! Congrats on 5 years, that is awesome!
Thank you for writing this. I got married at 18, infact I got engaged while I was still writing my finals, I also was asked the same questions, but I knew what I was doing was right and I have now been married for almost 14 years, and they have been the happiest years of my life, I wouldn't change my decision for anything.
You left out a huge part of marriage (or I missed it, my apologies if I did) the enormous legal obligations of marriage. This is written purely on the emotional sides of marriage. No one ever considers the gigantic legal deal marriage is. In the eyes of the law, creditors, doctors, accountants, etc, you two are now one person to a certain extent. When there is very little legal benefit to marriage while being so young, and very many downsides (financially, not emotionally!) of getting married young, why not just wait until you are older? You aren't missing anything that you won't get by just living with them and being in a relationship with them. I suppose if it is worth the financial risk, then maybe go for it? But if I sat down at a poker table and they said I have a 50-50 chance of winning but it only pays me 10% of my bet if I win, I'd think you'd be a fool to play that table. Especially if you knew that if you come back later you have a 95% chance of winning. Remember, those 50% of divorcees thought they had the love of their life. I'm not saying you don't, anyone who dares try to lecture you on how you feel is an idiot. BUT, no matter when you get married, just remember the legal ramifications are the same. Why not wait until you are older, the return on your investment (getting married) is the same, the risk is way lower, and the opportunity cost (aka not getting married now at 19 but 30) is next to none?
Again, this is all from the often not considered, legal point of view of marriage.
As someone who lived with my now husband for 3 years before we got married I can tell you that there is a huge difference between the two. I've loved my husband for almost 5 years now, but those first 3 years were nothing compared to these last 2. Something changes when you say I do, something deep and unexplainable happens when you commit yourself to that person completely. When there is no longer a step untaken it opens up a whole new level of intimacy between two people. Being smart about the person and time you choose to marry is essential, but holding off because of the odds is not the right reason. If I could go back knowing what I know now I would get married 2 years sooner. Your whole life will be fighting against one odd or another, dont put off anything you know you want because of societal statistics.
I appreciate your legal point of view; I think you're correct in that many young couples don't consider this important side of marriage as much as they should prior to getting married.
That being said, I had two thoughts as I pondered your comment throughout the day that I'd like to share. Number one is that the author of this post, and I'm assuming a significant number of the commenters are LDS. For faithful Mormons, premarital sex is a big no no, so living together is out of the question. This might lead many people to accuse young LDS couples of only getting married so quickly because they're excited for sex. While I'm not going to naively say that this never happens, if these couples are firm in their faith there are going to be a lot more factors that go into that marriage decision then just excitement for sex. I I was definitely excited for that with my husband, but I'd also known what important qualities I wanted and investigated the kind of man he was in LOTS of areas before we got married to make sure it was right.
Number two is something I realized several years ago before I was married. That statistic of 50% failed marriages used to terrify me, for the exact reason that you mentioned. I misunderstood that to mean that I must only have a 50/50 chance of a successful marriage- like that statistic would randomly determine which marriages succeed and which ones crumble. Then one day it hit me- that's not it at all! 50% of all marriages ending in divorce doesn't automatically mean that mine has a 50% chance of failure. No marriage fails because of factors outside of the couple's control. Marriage is hard work, but if each partner comes into it with 100% effort, that "50% statistic" can't just swoop in and make it fail. Marriage takes humility and compromise and selflessness and an attitude of service- all of which have become a lot less important today's society as people focus more on themselves, in my opinion.
Ttrade, you're not taking into account one important detail. The author and many of the people commenting here are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. As such, they believe in strict abstinence before marriage. LDS who desire a temple marriage do not live or sleep together before marriage. Plus, the average 50% divorce rate is not accurate in this instance. "About 5.4 percent of LDS males who married in the temple were later divorced, and about 6.5 percent of the females" https://www.lds.org/ensign/1984/07/news-of-the-church/lds-rank-high-in-marriage-low-in-divorce-study-says?lang=eng
With just about a 6% chance of temple marriages ending in divorce, it becomes a much better deal to get married in the temple at any reasonable age, especially since sex is awesome and really difficult to wait for! Not that you should get married just because you want to have sex, that is a REALLY foolish idea and NOT promoted by anyone with any sort of authority or sanity in the LDS church.
Actually, you're missing a few big chunks of the legal information. For college students, it doens't matter if you're independent on your tax records. Your Fasfa still zaps your parents' information. The assumption is that the parents will always help with college fees. Because of this, my future husband and I were looking at 4 years of college with no federal aid coming in. This meant that we were taking out loans each semester for board and a mandatory meal plan because part-time jobs couldn't even cover that expense.
My husband and I got married our sophomore year of college. Immediately, the financial aid we couldn't get because of our parents kicked in. Suddenly, not only was tuition paid for, but so were books and a meal plan. The money going towards one rent was cheaper per month than the cost of one dorm room, and we had two incomes to put towards it.
Also, there are some serious tax breaks for married college students. Basically, our future is brighter and (almost) debt-free because we decided we were responsible enough to be married now.
I too was warned against getting married by everyone around me, yet being married at 19 was the best thing that could have ever happened to me! You stated it all so perfectly!! 🙂 I am glad someone else shares the same joy as I being married young! 🙂 God Bless!!
I absolutely love this! I just turned 20 this past December and my fiance and I are getting married May 10th, 2014. People have told us all the things in your article and my answer is always the same; we've known each other for five years and with the exception of two short break ups we've dated that whole time. I've known for a long time I'd be with him the rest of my life because he makes me a better person. I don't think age defines when you should get married, maturity does, and recognizing you love someone more than you love yourself takes maturity. Congratulations to everyone on here with happy marriages and well wishes to all those getting married in the future 🙂
I was married right after high school graduation– nearly 22 years ago. Still blissfully in love, with thirteen children, I'd say the return on my "investment" has been excellent! 😉
Marriage is a big commitment. It's a lot of responsibility– cooking, cleaning, paying bills, raising a family, renting or buying houses and cars and possessions– most of which is not considered by young couples before marrying. I'm glad yours is a happy story and I hope it continues to be happy. Maturity and life experience should define us, as opposed to age. Some people are okay with growing up together. I'm thankful that my young engagement crumbled because it allowed me to grow as an individual, as my own person, free from the influence and pressures that a spouse's desires bring. I've learned how to succeed by myself, to be truly independent financially, emotionally, and otherwise. But not all stories are the same, and our differences make us beautiful. Best wishes to you and yours!
I agree. I had prayed for my future husband since I was 12. We met at my Mamaw's during Sunday lunch…my cousin and he had gone to Iraq together. They had just got home and wanted some good home cooking after church, so my cousin invited him to come. God just "dropped him right into my Mamaw's kitchen" for me:) He got deployed to Afghanistan, while we were in a relationship. On his 2 week leave, we went to the mountains and got married. It was a month after I graduated highschool and a month before I turned 19. Soon after he got home for good, we found out we were expecting a baby. Now, we are 3 months away from our 2nd anniversary with a beautiful 9 month old baby girl and a baby due in October. We count them as blessings:) it has not always been a fairytale, but it has been real. I'm thankful for my husband and our young family. I believe that if you both understand the biblical view and pattern for marriage and you both agree that divorce isn't an option, that getting married young shouldn't be a problem. A helpful tip someone once gave me was " Never date someone you wouldn't consider marrying" and "Why give pieces of your heart away to different guys when you can save the whole thing for the one right one?" Both of those were helpful to me.
That helpful tip is spot on! Why does society think it is necessary to date a whole bunch of different people when believers know God will bring the right one in His time.
What you wrote here is how feel inside but never could put into words. This was beautifully said. I was married a couple weeks after I turned 19. My husband is a few years older. I had a lot of people tell me I was crazy… but I loved him and wasn't going to wait any longer to marry him. We have only been married two years, but I never regret making that choice. Thanks again for this post!
Thank you a hundred thousand times over!! I am 17 and in singles ward(yes it is allowed as long as your out of highschool) and I get a lot of similar questions/ reactions. Plus, there is a possibility of marriage while I'm a teenager. I've had people tell me to wait and just have fun and just have experiences. People say I'm too young, but they aren't me, you know? Ok, so it worked for them to get a married at 24, that's great for them!! It is so nice to see that other people are more open minded and aren't just putting everyone through a cookie cutter making us all do the same things at the"right time". Again, thank you a thousand times!!
I was 18 when i married the love of my life. There are some things I wish i could have changed but marrying him is not one of those. This August will be 2 years married and 5 years together 🙂
I love your blogs, and I am also a newlywed. I was married around 6 months ago at the age of 22 and where I am from, people also thought it was crazy. I had several family members tell me I was too young. Sometimes it even makes me sad or it will make me over think things and it affects my marriage. I really appreciate your thoughts and it has built me up big time. I appreciate you! Thanks!
I got married at 19 just two months after we began dating. We had seen each other, but did not know one another before we started dating. This July we will celebrate our 21st anniversary. If I had to do it over again, I would make the very same decision.
Very well said. My wife and I have been married for 40 years and we still feel the same now as you did then. "Love never fails". Congratulations
I was married 2 weeks after turning 17. I have been married for 29 1/2 years. Was it hard? YES, but rather you get married young or older, marriage is hard and probably the hardest job you will ever hold, but it is all worth the tears, the angry, and most of all the joy!
I got married at 19, going on 10 years! Happy happy happy! There is something to be said for having a one and only. Nothing that great in love happens between high-school and finding mr. right anyway just a bunch of baggage. Go through the college experience with your own family you chose, yes please!
Both of my parents were 17 when they got married & this Nov they will celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary! They will tell you that it has been tough but they stuck it out & I am so Happy to call them my parents!
I am so glad that you wrote this its good to know i'm not alone. I've always felt so lucky that people always think i'm older than I really am. They're not as shocked when I say i'm married. However I got married at 18 my husband was 24. We dated my Senior year of high school and everyone told me I was crazy except my close friends and family who knew i was capable of that kind of love and selflessness. I agree it is way harder than I ever dreamed. But Everyday I wake up happier and more in love than ever before. My husband is perfect in everyway and I know I avoided so much heart break and horrible relationships by marrying the perfect man first. There is not a day I miss the life I could have had because I know god gave me the Life that was better. So it's worth the crazy looks when I tell people i'm 19 and i've been married for a year. Because they can't handle my happiness.
Amen, sister!!! Your words echoed my thoughts exactly. Most people I meet don't think twice when I say I've been happily married for just over 3 years. And then eventually when they find out I'm only 22, they inevitably go, "Wait – what?? And you've been married HOW long??" Funny how quickly some minds turn to being judgmental with just that little extra piece of information. But I am totally going to live by your phrase now – they can't handle my happiness. :]
This is what I want more than anything!!!! I believe in the old fashioned marriages where you are married young and die together old thank you for your story gives me hope ill find that person soon enough
This was so beautiful! I am 20 will be 21 when i get married in October this year, to my high school sweetheart! We have been together for 5 years in June, and even though we have been together and and never broken up, people still question us. They say your so young you have your whole life to be married. All i can tell them is i want to be married to him for my whole life. I know he is my heart and soul! If we could have been married sooner we would have. People need to realize love does not have a age limit. Congrats on 9 years of marriage and thank you for writing your story!
I too got married when I was 19! We have now been married for 6 years. Although it hasn't always been easy…it is the best decision I have ever made! -Emily
Honestly, I don't place an age on it, personally. My grandmother and grandfather were 19 and 20 respectively and they just hit their 53 year anniversary. Love doesn't have an age limit, what matters is how you handle the things that are designed to drive a wedge between the two of you… congratulations.!
Great story! I was married at 16, yes 16! My parents had to sign consent obviously but my husband and I were ready for sure. He was 18. We just celebrated our 8 year anniversery. Remember age is just a number 🙂 I still get people making remarks on marrying so young, you would think that after a while people would get that getting married young isn't always a bad thing
Thank you! I got to hear all of these things and more from just about everyone from when we got engaged in 2010 to when I got married at two days shy of 20 in 2013! Its hard, yes, but its so worth it. I would not trade my life as a Navy Wife for anything! I hope one day people will understand that just because people get married at 18 or 19, does not mean they are young and giving anything up; if anything I think we gain something.
I am glad that you shared your story, it sounds like a beautiful one to say the least.. I wish you and your Ash as you said many many years of love.
My grandmother was 15 when she got married and they have been married over 50 years. My mother was 18 and they are coming up on 29 years. When I got married(at 18 also) my Dad told me, Marriage is a choice, you wake up everyday and decide I am going to love this person for the rest of my life to the best of my ability." My husband and I have stuck to that and almost 6 years and 1.5 kids later(pregnant with baby 2) we are stronger than ever. It can work but you both have to give 100%. Marriage isn't 50-50 its 100-100
I married my sweetie when I was 18. I am still surprised that after 23 years of being completely happily married people think that was kind of "crazy". I was in my second year of college and hadn't lived at home for over a year and a half. I seriously had no question if it was right. I had prayed and received a very direct answer. Never looked back. My husband and I feel that a lot of people nowdays who wait until they are "older" to marry are having a lot of troubles because they are so "set" in their ways. It's so amazingly easy to mold your lives together when you're in your "molding" years. We love the life we've built together! Just my two cents. 🙂
My husband and I have been married for almost 16 years, he was 19 and I was 18 on our wedding day. Life has not always been easy but love is love!
Love your thoughts Shawman. My hubby and I were also 19 and 18 respectfully and are looking forward to our 46!! anniversary in July 2014. When you take two different individuals that have been raised by two different sets of parents there are bound to be some "not so easy days" but we wouldn't trade each other in for anyone else. You're right . . . life isn't always easy, but love is. There has been so many good comments on this thread!
My husband and I met January 2004 when I was 17. We started dating in April 2004. In August of 2004 we got engaged. And were married December 14, 2004. I got the same questions and more. People said we were moving to fast and that we would never last. My husband was 26 years old and I was 17 when we got married. My mother tried to make me break up with him after my 18th birthday in June and because I wouldn't see kicked me out of her house. It just brought my us together even more. We are going on our 10th year anniversary this year. We have 2 beautiful kids 8 and 5. We have gone through so much that should have torn us apart over the past 10 years but we have come out strong together. Despite being young and only knowing each other a year before we got married we have showed the world and ourselves that love doesn't see boundaries with age. He is my rock and I fall in love with him every day. Thank you for writing this it was so sweet and nice to hear about other people who have fallen in love and stayed married so many people give up on marriage when things start to get tough so I love to hear the success stories. Congratulations to every young couple out there who have found their soul mate at a young age. We are lucky!!!
Sorry that was suppose to say my husband was 26 years old and I was 17 when we got together. He was 27 and I was 18 when we got married
I was also married at 19. This year we will celebrate 19 yrs. I wouldnt change a minute either. Hes the love of my life and i love him more everyday. This was a wonderful article.
I was married at 18 (well, 4 days before my 19th birthday) and we're going on 14 years. It's funny because I've been to weddings of my friends who waited until they were at a "socially-appropriate age", who are now going through their divorce. Yet, my husband and I, the couple everyone said would never make it, and never held back their opinions of what a huge mistake we were making, are going strong. That's not to say I've never thought to throw in the towel, Lord knows every marriage goes through that. But I think it's just a matter of how much each person wants it. I've evolved so much since I was 18 until now at 32. But, we've evolved together. I wouldn't have it any other way. Congrats on all the other successful teenage brides out there! 🙂 We should start a club and tell people in their 30's they're "too old" to get married. LOL
I love it! I think once you get older it's harder because you are so set in your ways and now have to compromise a lot with your spouse. I started dating my husband, who was my older brother's friend, on my 18th birthday, we got engaged 3 weeks later, and were married 3 months after that. 16 years and 6 kids later my husband is the best thing in my life. Without him I wouldn't have these beautiful children. I think the key is to continue to fall in love with your spouse. Look to the good and do not dwell on the negative. We have had our moments and it's never all happy and romantic, you work towards that. My mother was married at 17 and her mother at 16 and both never divorced. 2 of my sisters are on their 3rd marriages and another sister on her 2nd marriage. After seeing what they have gone through it has helped us be even more committed. I say power to you if you are up for being married young and will take it seriously.
What a great post. 🙂
I was also 19 when I married my husband. He was 23. We had known each other for a year before we married, but had only known each other for 3 months when he proposed. He was my first 'REAL' boyfriend and everybody asked me exactly the same questions that they asked you. They thought that I was just 'settling' for the first boy that paid any attention to me. Oh, how wrong they all were. I cannot imagine anyone more perfect for me. We have been together for almost 11 years now, and we have three kids. I am not exaggerating when I say that there has NEVER been a moment when I wished I had made a different choice. I love reading stories from other happy people with happy marriages. Thanks for sharing yours. Here's mine: http://aelysium.blogspot.com/2011/08/seven-years-baby-our-story.html
I met my husband when I was 18 we didn't make it official till I was 20 but we already said our " I DO'S " We know have 3 beautiful children and have been together for 7yrs Love is something that you just know and when you do you know and don't let anyone tell you other wise I am 24 now and I wouldn't have done anything different Kudo's to u
Beautiful. My husband and I married less than three months after I turned 18. If I had been able and he hadn't been over seas I would have married him the day of my 18th birthday. It has been the best decision I have ever made and I have never doubted it for a minute. Three children, 8 years, and several war wounds later we are going strong. He is my very best friend in the entire world, my heart, and together we have forged a love and a life together.
Thank you for writing this post! I got married when I was 20 to the man I've been with since I was 16! Our 1st married anniversary will be this May! We were told all the same things. I wouldn't have it any other way!
I wholeheartedly agree with your blog. It isn't about what you are "giving up" – it's about a love that encompasses all of you and leaves you yearning for more with that one special person.
I was married just 3 weeks after my 18th birthday and I believed in my husband and I believed in us. Unfortunately, he didn't feel quite the same and six years later – he divorced me and moved on to a number of marriages that followed. HOWEVER, I know how I felt when I accepted his proposal and the day of our wedding in front of God, family and friends. I know that I did what I truly believed in and do not question the authenticity of those feelings. Almost 16 years has passed and while I haven't found my "forever" – I know that God has his hand in it all and in His time I will again be married. You have a lifetime of growth and maturity ahead and some good and bad but as long as you both are committed to your marriage you will be together until the end.
This is perfect. 🙂 My husband and I just got married in November, and I am still 19 as well! I got all the same questions you did, and sometimes still do. It can be hard sometimes with all the negativity, but the way you look at everything is just perfect! Thank you for sharing this, I totally agree with everything you said. I mean, why go on adventures by yourself when you can go EVERY TIME with your best friend?? 🙂 I'm glad i'm not the only married 19 year old. Thank you again for sharing!
My husband and I have known each other since 3rd grade, started dating my freshmen year in high school a few break ups here and there but we have been together for 8 years… we got married when i was 19 he was 20… December we will be married for 4 years… we had our first child at age 20…. 🙂 just because we are young doesnt mean a thing!! 🙂 I love being a younger mom!
I got married 3 months before I turned 19 (translated: I was still 18). I'd attended a year of college. Was I young? Sure, but I didn't realize it at the time. All I knew was that I had found the man I wanted to marry, that we were best friends, and that we had the same goals and dreams. I feel good about it.
Did it work out?
37 years and counting. We're more in love than ever, despite wandering through a lifetime of huge challenges. We stick together and our friendship makes it all work.
You go, Natasha! Be happy. 🙂
I got married a couple months after I turned 20. Even though my husband and I had a child together all ready there were still so many people that were against it. His parents were not okay with it but he told me he didnt care what any one else thought…the point was that we loved each other and we knew that no matter how old we were that was never going to change. My husband is currently at boot camp to join the United States Army and I could not be more proud of him. Yes, I "gave up" a lot the day I said I do…but I gained so much more than what I "gave up". Thank you for writing this post.
Married at 20. We just passed 26 years.
Best decision I ever made.
This was so beautifully written. I agree with it so very much! I love my husband, even when I don't 😉 (Like when he eats the last of my ice cream, or when he leaves the toilet seat up and I go in there and sit down and "Splash" there I go into the toilet, and all he can do is laugh when I come out steaming mad; and that laugh, the total happiness I see on his face at that moment reminds me of every little moment I love about my life, and why I married him in the first place). We were married November 1, of 2011, this will be three years going strong. And, I was only 18 at the time, actually only 4 months after I turned 18 (with a little change) we married. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world, because the surprise dates we go on are always so much better than all of those other ones before him. And now we have a beautiful 15 month old son, who is our whole world. I wouldn't give my life up for all of the riches in the world.
Love your words! Explained perfectly!! I will be printing this and sharing! I was married at 17 and on the very day I graduated from high school and we have now been happily married for 10 years this June! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!
I was married at 18 . Just out of high school.
I ran off to college and got married.
We have only been married for 5 months now
But i wouldnt trade it for the world. Im now 19 and we are expecting our first
Child. And still i wouldnt xhange a thing. This story brought tears to my eyez
You explained how i felt in every way. Thank you so much for writing this.
This is so perfectly written! I got married at 19 and on June 8th last year as well!!
I married my husband at 19, and we celebrated 11 years yesterday. No regrets. It's a beautiful thing.
I just turned 18 and I had my daughter on my 18th birthday. Her father ran out on us when she was only 2 weeks old. But my boyfriend I've had since then has taken me and her in as his own. We are getting married in June. Thank you for the words of encouragement.
I got married right out of high school at age 17. My husband was 19. We were married 37 years. He died unexpectedly January 29 this year. We had such a wonderful marriage. He was my best friend and I miss him so much. We raised 3 wonderful sons and they are all married to wonderful women. I thank God for blessing me with this life. He told me many times if he died to keep on living and I am. It is hard. Make every moment, every day count. Treat each other as you would want to be treated. It worked for us. Love each other deeply. You never know when it might be your last day together.
So sorry for your loss. Love your story!
Well, I got married at 20 and still heard most of the same things, being too young…. I did have a couple of single years though. I can say it was the best decision I ever made and now after 22 1/2 years I can still say he is my best friend and soul mate. I have now been married longer than I was single! We laugh and have fun and act goofy together. We grew into actual adults together and found our way into the world, made mistakes, learned the hard way but all of it we did together. So that makes it great. I will admit there have been times that I thought maybe I did start too young or wonder if I missed anything but when I REALLY think about it, I didn't miss anything….every thing I did as a young adult that I would have done single I still (kinda) did, only I did it with my best friend. Meaningless sex/one night stands is about the only thing I "gave up?" I guess??? So yeah singles can have those. Also now that my 4 kids are older, my husband and I get to enjoy each other again by going and doing things, just the 2 of us, while we are still fairly young, in our 40's. So much more pros to this than cons, I believe!
This says it all! I met my husband when I was 19 and married when I was barely 20. I heard it all. My own father did not even attend my wedding. My uncle came from out of town to give me away. For the first year of my married life, my dad didnt even speak to my husband. Every chance my dad had he tried to bribe me to leave him, the bribes were unreal, money, new car, a house, the list goes on. I knew in my heart I made the right decision, so that made me fight even harder for this marriage. I gave it all I had and more! Six months into the marriage I found out I was pregnant with our 1st child. Things started to change after she was born. Fast forward to today, it is now 32yrs later, 5 children, 1 grandchild and Im more in love with him now than when we were first married. Dont get me wrong here, we have had our share of hard times, but we made it thru stronger than ever. He is the love of my life and there are no regrets! Thank you for this article. God Bless!
I'm sorry, but I need to interject here. You said you "gave up" your "life" and your "whole self", that sounds terrible to me. I know you found love and that's great, but it's true that age IS right out of high school, people don't even know who they are at that age. Now who are you? A wife. A mother. I guess there's nothing wrong with this if you want to leave a painfully average life. No matter what anyone says, getting married at a young age is always the safe route. You have this person who is stuck with you so you don't have to go though life alone. And yes, living on your own at that age and after is a hell of a lot harder than if you have a partner, believe me.
Now you say you Gave Up….
"your heart"- You do not have to get married to fall in love.
"your privacy"- LOL roommates, siblings, live-in boyfriend…
"your name"- Yes this is what marriage is.
"your secrets"- Ever had a close friend before (besides your husband)? If not, that's sad.
"your agenda"- This, my friend, is life, everyone makes sacrifices. Lots of them.
"dating other people"- Yes, this is what marriage is.
"awkward dinner conversations"- They're only awkward if one of you is awkward. If it's him, oh well, you probably aren't paying for the dinner anyway, but if it's you, yes maybe you are better off married before you have enough life experience to be interesting.
Giving up your whole self doesn't mean giving up who you are or becoming property. I would say it means giving up your selfish desires at the least. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving up selfish desires. Selfishness is quite an ugly attribute if you ask me.
Being married does not make you boring or mean you have to lead a "painfully average life".
I am 21. I have been married for 1 year. My husband is going to spend 6 months in China learning kung fu and other things to help him in his future in physical therapy. While he is in China, I will be in Taiwan teaching english and doing service. We will have weekends and some week days together.
We are both college students who still take part in all that our school has to offer. We hang out with friends on weekends, together or separate. We go dancing and never have to wonder if we will be asked. As dance instructors, we ask and teach others how to dance as well. I will graduate next year in Animal Science. I'm going to have my own farm where I can raise and grow organic food for my family and to sell to local foodies and restaurants. While my kids are young, I will do my best to help people out of poverty by teaching those in my community how to grow and raise their own food and be self sufficient. When grandparents and my husband can take care of the kids for a while, I will travel to other countries to do the same. When my kids are old enough, they will come with me to help teach and serve others. This does not sound like a boring life to me. I will be able to experience more people, cultures, and countries than many others, single or not ever will. Obviously, my life is not "painfully average" at all! This is the dream I have had since a very young age when boys had cooties. My husband and future children are not obstacles to my dreams, they are vital components to it! What am I? A wife, future mother, sister, daughter, teacher, traveler, scholar, future college graduate, philanthropist, humanitarian, and whatever else I want to be! A husband and family do not stop you from being what you want to be. You grow with your family and support each other in their dreams and goals. We all help each other. That means sometimes we sacrifice certain experiences. But in our sacrifices, we gain other things and grow into more well rounded people. My family will sacrifice some of their experiences so they can share in mine.
I am young, I am also interesting. My husband and I are growing more interesting every day. Our experiences are not diminished because of our marriage. In my opinion, my experiences have been enhanced! I feel like I have learned more about myself in this one year of marriage than I did in my first year of college as a single. I have learned to love service and gained a lust for travel I never had before.
I have had close friends before, I still have them, they don't know me as well as my husband does even though they have known me far longer. There is something different and special about the relationship with your husband. It is far greater than the relationship with a close friend or even siblings or parents. Until you have it, you cannot know how.
I could write a book in response to your comment, I'm afraid I already have, but I will wrap it up by saying this: Marriage is what you make it. To say all married people are boring or "painfully average" is absolutely ridiculous and utterly foolish. And finally, average is not painful. One person's average is another person's dream.
I'm interested to hear what kind of life you lead if you think traveling to Germany, Austria, England, Wales, Italy, and France as well as living and working in Belgium during most of our engagement counts as boring. I'm studying to be an opera singer. I study Italian, German, and Spanish. I've toured around the world with a prestigious choir. Astronomy, Egyptology, history, human anatomy, and writing are my hobbies. I got married right after I turned 21, and the only reason I waited that long was because my husband was working in NYC for two years before that and directed a lot of the local hurricane clean-up crews on Long Island. We are now expecting a baby, so yes, I want to be a wife and mother, and I take pride in that. And I believe that it is all a part of living life to the fullest and taking advantage of every opportunity I can, both when it comes to education and family.
Giving up selfish desires is just not what I got from that statement. And I suppose if you want a happy and successful marriage you would have to give up some of the latter. But single people can be just as giving and selfless…that just doesn't seem relevant at all.
I do agree that a marriage doesn't HAVE to be "painfully average," but I believe this normally comes after children. Do you realize how much sacrifice comes with raising children (well)? Unless you or your husband are inheriting a lot of money (or your husband ends up making a lot of money to support you both) I am not sure how you are possibly going to balance all this unpaid humanitarian/service work with paid work and then also have enough time with your children. Of course your life is nothing like this now, first of all you are still in college and you and the person you married are still exploring completely different things and growing. Good for you. I think it's interesting that you have your entire life planned out this young. There sure were a lot of "I will" and "I'm going to" statements in that comment. You sure seem really high and mighty about a life that is not even a reality yet. I also think it's interesting that you just know that your kids will want to partake in the same things you do, especially during those oh-so-wonderful teenage years. I certainly hope for your sake that this fantasy plays out in your favor, but you should know that reality hits you pretty hard and you are probably in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line.
Giving up selfish desires is just not what I got from that statement. And I suppose if you want a happy and successful marriage you would have to give up some of the latter. But single people can be just as giving and selfless…that just doesn't seem relevant at all.
I do agree that a marriage doesn't HAVE to be "painfully average," but I believe this normally comes after children. Do you realize how much sacrifice comes with raising children (well)? Unless you or your husband are inheriting a lot of money (or your husband ends up making a lot of money to support you both) I am not sure how you are possibly going to balance all this unpaid humanitarian/service work with paid work and then also have enough time with your children. Of course your life is nothing like this now, first of all you are still in college and you and the person you married are still exploring completely different things and growing. Good for you. I think it's interesting that you have your entire life planned out this young. There sure were a lot of "I will" and "I'm going to" statements in that comment. You sure seem really high and mighty about a life that is not even a reality yet. I also think it's interesting that you just know that your kids will want to partake in the same things you do, especially during those oh-so-wonderful teenage years. I certainly hope for your sake that this fantasy plays out in your favor, but you should know that reality hits you pretty hard and you are probably in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line.
Giving up selfish desires is just not what I got from that statement. And I suppose if you want a happy and successful marriage you would have to give up some of the latter. But single people can be just as giving and selfless…that just doesn't seem relevant at all.
I do agree that a marriage doesn't HAVE to be "painfully average," but I believe this normally comes after children. Do you realize how much sacrifice comes with raising children (well)? Unless you or your husband are inheriting a lot of money (or your husband ends up making a lot of money to support you both) I am not sure how you are possibly going to balance all this unpaid humanitarian/service work with paid work and then also have enough time with your children. Of course your life is nothing like this now, first of all you are still in college and you and the person you married are still exploring completely different things and growing. Good for you. I think it's interesting that you have your entire life planned out this young. There sure were a lot of "I will" and "I'm going to" statements in that comment. You sure seem really high and mighty about a life that is not even a reality yet. I also think it's interesting that you just know that your kids will want to partake in the same things you do, especially during those oh-so-wonderful teenage years. I certainly hope for your sake that this fantasy plays out in your favor, but you should know that reality hits you pretty hard and you are probably in for a rude awakening somewhere down the line.
I agree Miasara. Thank you for your response.
This is beautiful. I got married at 18 to my best friend. There were so many people who "knew" it wouldn't last. I am happy to say we have been married 21 years and have 5 wonderful children. We are closer now than ever. It wasn't always wine and roses. We kind of had to grow up together. But we knew from the get go that forever was our only option. And our good times outweigh the tough ones 100-1. We still laugh and love everyday.
I married my husband when I was only 16. We will celebrate our 8 year anniversary this May. It is definitely hard but I love him. And when I am having a bad day he will make me laugh and forget what I was even complaining about. We have been through our share of experience (military, living states away from home, becoming a veteran's wife, kids, college and more). I wouldn't take it back because we have come so far together and I don't know if I would be the same person if it wasn't for him.
I got married at 19 years too!
Would NEVER trade that for anything in this world! I love my husband and I know God ordained our marriage! 🙂
Great story that needed to be written. I have been with my husband since I was 16. Got married at 20 and we have been together for a total of 12 years now. It's the best decision I have ever made by far!!
Thanks so much for posting this. I will be getting married at 18, and I've had a lot of those same questions, especially considering he's in the army. We love each other so much though, and I can't wait to start my life with him. I really needed this encouragement. Thanks!
Wow I thought I was readin my life story. That is exactly what I heard. I dated guys in the past but never went on a date until I was 16 and it was with my boyfriend that I had already been dating for a year. at 15 I knew then that he was the man I wanted to marry, its 5 years later now and we are engaged and saving money to get married. We enjoy every minute together and wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world and even though ive been with him for 5 years I still have ppl telling me that we will both change and that we might not love each other in the future and I just laugh at them and say you don't know us. because they don't. not everyones life is the same and people fail to realize that.
I got married at 17 and when you find true love you just know it. May 31, 2014 we will celebrate our 24th anniversary. I wouldn't change getting married young even if I could!
Nice !! I was 14 When I married my best friend and we recieved all of these and that we were to. Young our marriage would never make it .on March 31st we will celabrate 35 years and going strong.congratulations to you, keep believing and keep loving oneanother♥♥♥
Very beautifully expressed! Thank you! My wife was 16 and I was 21 when we married. We didn't "have to" we wanted to. On the 4th of March we celebrated 36yrs of marital bliss. I can't imagine life without her. Again, thank you, it blesses me to see young people with the same commitment! God Bless…
Thank you so much for writing this!! I was married at twenty (engaged a month after my 20th birthday). Not because I was pregnant, not because I just wanted to be married, but because I truly loved and still to this day love my husband with all my heart. He's my soulmate (I never believed in soulmates before I met him). He makes my laugh, he holds me when I cry, and he does everything in his power to make me happy. I try to do the same for him and I truly appreciate everything he does. We've been married three and a half years now. We have had our problems, like all couples, but it wasn't because I was 20 when we got married. Thank you for writing this article and speaking for everyone who got married young. Not because we had to, but because we wanted to with all our hearts <3 <3
Thanks for this post! I'm getting married just a few days before I turn 21 to my high school sweetheart and I've had mixed responses from other people. Some support our choices, others think that we need to wait a little while longer. After five years of dating we are ready for this. We've been committed to each other since day one and our love and companionship grows stronger every day!
I was 19 when we met. He proposed on my 20th birthday. WE got married 6 months later. He is 8 yrs older than me. We will celebrate our 14th anniversary this year. We have 4 awesome kids and no regrets
I was 19 too and it's been 33 years. Best decision I ever made. Thanks for putting into words, how I feel.
A friend shared this on my Facebook wall. It made me smile to relate to another girl. I married my husband at 19 (I'm 20 now) and I have never been so sure it was the right decision. I believe God grants us the ability to look in to a person and see them as who he created them to be and that's how we know the decision is the right one. Thank you for sharing your story. You're not alone and even though we hear these 'pieces of advice' by people in our every day lives its coming from a place of ignorance. Only a select few get the gift of finding their love early, let's cherish it and bask in the rarity of it! 🙂 Much love <3
I love this! Perfectly written. I am 19, and we were married 3 months ago. And it's not true that marriage interferes with college – I'm going into law school this year and my husband is starting his Master's degree. We feel blessed by young marriage! God bless you both.
I loved this! I have been with my husband 32 years – since I was 18 and we have raised two beautiful daughters. He is my best friend, my soul mate and the love of my life and I would not change a thing.
We heard all the "advice" as well – consider yourself lucky, like we do, that you found each other early in life and you have that much more time to love each other that much more.
We married the day after my 18th birthday in the chapel of his church, just me, him and the preacher. He was almost 21. This August we will celebrate our 32nd anniversary. And that grocery store cashier in our little town was really shocked when we had our first child 8 years later. 🙂
I love it! This is the first blog post in a long time that I felt so connected to. My husband's name is Ashton as well. And we got married at a young age and, of course, heard all those same comments and felt like we had very little support for our decision. I love my husband without doubt and I would do it all over again and again. I've never been so connected to anyone person and truly felt that completeness as when he and I are together. Marriage is a beautiful thing. I only wish I had known him sooner so I could love him longer. Best of wishes to you and your Ashton! 🙂
I graduated highschool in June(province of Ontario in Canada had 5 years of highschool at the time) …married my husband in August(three weeks shy of my 19th birthday) …got pregnant on our honeymoon…16 years later and 5 kids we love our life – the Lord is good! I really enjoyed your post!
I absoulutely loved reading this!! A lot of people now days does not really know what it means to be in love and to work together to make a marriage work!!! I was married 3 days after I turned 18 because my Dad would not sign for me, and heard just about every statement you listed above. But I knew I loved him with all my heart, and have now been married 21yrs!! I look back through the years and am amazed at how our love grew for each other with each passing year. So many times my Husband and I have been talking " Do you remember this or do you remember when we did this" And then he would always say " And I thought I loved you then" it's amazing how you grow together, experiance things that make you stronger and you fall so much more in love!! So I guess you can Imagine when Brad Paisley came out with the song "I thought I loved you then" That became our new song. I wish you many more years of happiness!!!
I graduated high school and 22 days later got married to my best friend. We were both 18, yes we were young and didn't have much, but we so enjoy each others company….almost 26 years later, I'd do it all again…
I too was married at 19 and wouldn't change a thing! Best decision of my life. My husband and I will celebrate our third anniversary this May and although we've faced trials, we've faced them TOGETHER, and I'm happier than I ever thought imaginable.
I blog a lot about marriage and life as a young wife at http://www.jaimieramsey.com–I'd love for you to stop by!! 🙂
I found this post from it being shared on fb. This is beautiful! I am not married, and 24, but all of these thoughts have scared me from getting married. I've been "settled" with my fiance for nearly 5 years. Thank you for sharing the beautiful side of marriage. I truly appreciate your words and courage to share your story. I look forward to exploring your blog!
I married my husband when I was still 18. We have been married going on 30 years in August. We went 10 years without children, although we wanted them, they just never did come. After 10 years we adopted a son and then 7 years later we adopted 3 more children. God knew where and when our children would be born, I just had to learn to trust Him in everything. It has been a blessed 30 years. Wouldn't trade it for the world.
Wonderful post! Thanks so much for sharing. I got married at 19 (my husband was 22) and I've never regretted it once (him either!). We've been married for 33 years, have 3 children, and one grandson. Best life ever. 🙂
I got engaged at 18 and am getting married in 74 days (I'm 19 now). I've heard it all….
And you just spoke my heart! Thank you!
Thank you Natasha; I enjoyed reading your post. It was inspiring and I appreciate that–keep writing. You are sending uplifting messages.
My husband and I started dating when I was 17 and married 2 years later. We just celebrated our 4th anniversary, and are close to being together a total of 7 years. Your words brought tears to my eyes. Truly beautiful! It is one of the hardest things in life to share so much of yourself, but the most rewarding. Two kids later we are as strong as ever. Yes we have struggles daily, but I couldn't find a better person to spend the rest of my life with. Thank you for posting your story. I am inspired by your optimism and like knowing that there are other couples like us out there doing great. Congratulations
My husband and I started dating when we were 19. 10 months later we were then 20 we got engaged. I think it was 3 months after that we found out we were pregnant. Than 2 months after that we got married. My husband turned 21 the a few months later a week before my 21st birthday I had our beautiful baby girl. Everyone thinks we were crazy and rushed to fast into everything. I know I made the best choices of my life. I think it is so weird how some people look at having a husband and family as a burden. it isn't that way for me at all. I am blessed. I am so glad I found my better half so soon. I am going to have more time than most with him. I didn't have to wait to find him I found him fast. Getting married was the best thing I have ever don't except for our daughter. GOD IS SO GOOD!
beautiful and perfect. i got all that too. i was 17 when i married my guy. first met him at 15, then met again at 16 and started dating at 16 1/2. got married 3 months before my 18th bday. i graduated as a junior in highschool and got married 11 days after graduation. my dad had to sign for me to even get married. my son was born 15 months later and is now 8 1/2. this may will be 10 years!
I was married at 19 and with my hubby since 15. I got all of these so many times. We are still happily married with two teenage daughters and would not change a thing!
Love this! My husband proposed right after my 18th birthday and we were married 6 months later (I was still 18). I didn't date anyone else and I just knew that he was "the one!" Seven years later, he is still the one and I would do it all over again! When you know, you know! No need to go on dating or live up the single life! I absolutely LOVE being married and I get to spend every day with the most amazing guy ever! 😉
Met in high school. Married at 18. Nope, wasn't pregnant. We will be celebrating 34 years in November. It's not always been easy and smooth going. But what marriage is, no matter what age? The good out weighs the bad by a long shot.
If he makes you happy that's all that matters. I've been with my husband since I was 18 a few months after graduating actually. It'll be 8 years together this year and although he droves me nuts and vise versa I wouldn't give him up for the world. He works so hard so I can stay home with our 2 handsome boys. He's so good to us. Just keep in mind that your marriage is worth fighting for. Don't take it for granted. And one tjong to tell those other people " I didn't give up anything, I chose to share my everything" you got this girl
I love this post! My husband and I met the 1st day of college and I knew about a month in that we would get married one day! We got married almost a year to the day of meeting. We were pregnant, but that isn't the reason we got married. We got married because we want to spend our lives together. Of course we got all of the negative comments, but we believe firmly in putting God first in our marriage and never giving up on one another! We have been married a little over a year and a half, and have a beautiful 1 year old son! This is the life I always wanted, and I choose each day to "give it all up" because it's exactly what I want! I hope you see only encouragement from this post!
Here is my blog with my story:
http://imperfectionisbeautytoraj.blogspot.com/
LOVE IT! I was married 4 days after my 20th birthday to the man I only dated for 9 months..that was 24 years ago! Enjoy the journey!
I love this. I'm not married (yet) but I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17 (I'm 23) and I am frequently asked if I regret not being single in my early 20s or whether I feel like I have settled.. I feel like anyone who doesn't understand has probably never met the right person. Your post is fantastic!
So true! my wife and I got married the weekend after her graduation! We have been married 5 years, together.for 8.and have a beautiful home and we have two beautiful boys and a girl on the way. They said wait. I say jump start! My kids will be grown and gone before 50!!! Young enough to still fulfill our dreams!
I'll be marrying my amazing boyfriend at the age of 21 and he'll be 24. I knew from day one he was the one for me, and I'll gladly go anywhere with him. He's Air Force and I'm an EMT. Both of us have our lives together. And we can't wait to combine them.
People used to get married even younger than you. Younger than 18 even. Still do in many parts of the world. Your story is not special, sorry, and sounds no different than any married straight couple.
Natasha, Congrats! Being married is an awesome adventure. I too married young, right out of high school, two weeks before I turned 19! 10 months later our first son was born, and the children God blessed us with came pretty regularly after that – every 2 years. We have 7 children now, our youngest is on a mission. We have been married for 33 years in September, and are grandparents to 7 grandchildren. We too did a stint in the Navy and travelled. We have gone through school when we first started out, then back again while Brad got his MBA. We've started a business or two together and wondered if we would ever get to eat a whole candy bar ourselves because we could only afford one for 4 people, or one ice cream cone to share, or my favorite – "I don't like milk" when I was carrying our first child so that I could have the milk. (I saw him drinking glass after glass at his parents home and appreciated his sacrifice on my behalf). He supported me teaching our children at home for over 10 years when I was fed up with the schools, and proudly stood at each wedding we've had so far, and rocked those sweet grandbabies to sleep while I watch him. it IS POSSIBLE to love young, and to have that love grow and strengthen. It IS POSSIBLE to make Covenants at marriage and keep them. Even when times get tough. It IS POSSIBLE to forgive and do better next time, and love each other anyway even though they (or you!) are not perfect. I have enjoyed my journey so far. I am enjoying growing old with my childhood sweetheart. I look at him, and he has wrinkles and his hair is starting to grow gray, and he isn't as skinny as he was when we started this adventure, but I look in his eyes and he is still the man I fell in love with so many years ago. He still takes my breath away. He is still the man of my dreams, the father of my children, and the love of my life. IT IS POSSIBLE. May you have as many years of happiness that I have found. don't listen to the world. Listen to God and your heart. I know you know what I'm talking about. 🙂 and may you get to grow old with your sweetheart and have many wonderful adventures together!
Wow…i'm truely blessed by everyone amazing encouraging posts. I'm not married but have a few friends of mine who got married straight out of high school between the ages 18-20. I must admit i never understood it and found myself being the one to ask the questions like aren't you too young? shouldn't you wait a lil more? do you even know what love is? etc… Not realizing that they were at the point of surety…there was no doubt from their side but that it was with me… i had to/ maybe even still need to get to that place, which is why i haven't been able to settle down with anyone. I've realized that i have in this time been selfish, i'm not willing yet to make the sacrifices needed for marriage and that i did wrong towards my friends when i warned them against marriage out of my own fears camouflaging it as tho they were their fears. So Thank you Ladies for sharing your stories and helping me realize the true fact. A real big thank you to you Natasha Craig for sharing your beautiful story with us all May God continue to bless your marriage.
Thank you for the wonderful post. I was 20 when I got married we dated for a year to the date when we got engaged and married just 30 days later. We had people tell us it wouldn't last or we rushed into things but it was the best decision we ever made. We will be married 7 years this December. I wouldn't change a thing only to have found him sooner and married sooner.
Natasha, I loved your blog post. I have two girls, one 17 and one 19. Both of them are looking forward to marriage, even at this young age. I pray God grants them a wonderful husband to share their lives with. My son married at age 19, and he is the happiest I have ever seen him. His beautiful bride was 19, as well, and I am so glad they did not wait until my age, 32, before they married. They have so many more beautiful years ahead of them.
Natasha, you have a wonderful way with words. You paint beautiful pictures with your writing. I hope to read more of your posts in the future.
I got married at 18. I had been out of high school for 6 months. We starting right before I finished, were enaged 3 months later, and married another 3 months later. We also got pregnant a month after we were married. It wasn't planned, but if I had to do it over again I would plan it that way. I got a lot of critizism when I got married and when we got pregnant. Even now family sometimes will off handly say something about using pertection, it's annoying. Because we love our son and can't imagine life without him!
Thank you so much for writing this! My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We got married when I was 18 and he was 19. We have now been married 14 years and have two beautiful children. (8 & 4) I couldn't imagine my life without this wonderful man.
I adore this I was 18 my husband was 19 I was 7 months pregnant with our baby boy. We had been together 2 years and I had never been so happily in love with anyone before him l. We've been married for a little over a year now about to celebrate our son's first birthday. Yes we fight and argue but we love one another. Every couple has issues but the key is working them out together as a unit. I can never see myself with anyone other than my hubby. I am very glad I met him earlier than later gives move more time to love him and our beautiful son. ♡
Thank you for the words to remind me how precious the last 16 years have been to me. I have been with my husband for 16 years next week, and our anniversary of 15 years. We was married on my 18th birthday and we have grown up together. People ask what about the being single college experience? Yes I did give up the college
single life, but not college as im soon graduate with a doctorate. He is my best friend, since our lives was joined early everything major in our lives we have been through together, we have leaned on each other and cried and laughed with each other. We havent had the emptiness of not having support or being held when it was needed. So yes I was married as a teenager and am now in my thirties, it was and still is the greatest decision I have ever made!
I met my husband at 17 and married him at 18. When I was 23 we had a son, and at 26 a daughter. We've been married for 36 1/2 years and now have two wonderful grandchildren and a son- and daughter-in-law! Every day was not perfect, but every day we chose each other. I hope to have at least 36 1/2 more years with him. Love is about who you are and who you choose to be, with the person you choose to be with.
Great article. I too was a teen bride. I met God's man for me just 6 months after I graduated high school and we were married in December. Now, almost 18 years later, still with the same wonderful Godly man, I would have to agree with your article. I never missed anything. There is a plus though, I had my children early in life, my oldest I had when I was 20 and my second son I had when I was 22. I get so many compliments about my age like, "You can't have a 16 year old, your too young. Love it, makes my head swell just a bit. Can't wait till I get grand kids, wow will that REALLY BLOW PEOPLES MINDS. Don't let anyone make you feel like you have lost anything.
I just wanted to say, I got married when I was 18 2 weeks later turned 19. On Tuesday the 25th of this month March, we will be married 25 years! We have 10 children and 5 are grown, I have 2 grandchildren and I'm soo happy. I can't say it was a life of ease or still is, but I love who I am and who I have shared these past 25 years with. I wouldn't trade one thing about that decision even though I made it when I was soo young. I know for me it WAS the right one and I will never judge someone else on their choice. I hope you have a wonderful life together and you get to learn and grow with one another. It truly is a wonderful feeling to know that I have the energy and patience for my other children at home but also for my grandchildren. I also LOOK really young!! No one believes my age. I think it's the perks of being happily married. Good Luck with your marriage and know many are routing for your success.
I was married at (YIKES) 18!! And yes I was pregnant, but it is 14 years and 3 beautiful little boys later and I wouldn't change a thing <3
Awesome! I was married at 19 as well and in June will celebrate 24 years of marriage. Like so many of you, I got all "those" questions. I can't tell you it's been easy. We have two children one of which just got married at 21 and we have had bumps and lumps all along the way, but it is in those times that you learn so much about each other and realize that he is your best friend. Marriage must be a daily dying to self on both parts while opening your heart to your spouse and letting the Lord guide you. Although there are some days I could pinch him (LOL), I couldn't imagine taking this journey in life without him.
I also married young. I was 16, he was 20. Not pregnant. We had to have a Judge's permission as well as my parent's. Being a wife and mother was all that I ever wanted. We had "gone together" for 2 years before we married (I was 14). When I say "gone together", I mean we sat in church together, he came to my house, I went to his, we might have went places with our youth group, etc. He died just 6 months shy of our 30th anniversary (in 2008), to say I miss him every nanosecond of every day is an understatement. He was my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my rebuker, my encourager, my partner, my pastor. The Lord Jesus Christ truly blessed us with a wonderful life together, and I would never go back and do anything different because all of it has been the Lord's will and He has made me and is making me into what He wants me to be by the trials and triumphs in my life. I praise Him for the life He has given me both here on this earth and eternally in Heaven.
This is under my husband's name still….
Loved this! I was married at 20– if I had met him sooner I would have married sooner. We will celebrate 8 years in July and have 2 wonderful children. I have friends from school that aren't even married yet– I look at kids with little babies and think, I am so glad we are past that! I don't have the energy for diapers anymore lol My kids are 6 and 4.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I wish that I would have written down my thoughts and feelings when I too got married at a young age. I was 17 years old, one month into my senior year. We had a 5 month old son and had planned to get married soon after we found out we were pregnant. My dad, in his infinite wisdom, said, "no, you need to wait and get married because you want to not because you think you have to." I am so glad that we followed his counsel. We have now been married for eternity for 18 1/2 years and have 19, 17, 14, and 12 year old children. Our life together began in some of the most difficult of situations with people telling us that we were making a mistake and we would be divorced in a year. It has been a difficult and rewarding journey, one that I wouldn't change for anything. We have traveled the world together with our children and are now getting ready to send them out to begin their own journeys.
This is sweet, I love it. I met my husband at 14, a freshman in highschool, and married him at 17, a month after graduation. We caught so much flack, but those who supported us then are still in our lives today. We'll be celebrating our 4th anniversary soon and I fall more in love every day!
I married at the age of 17, 41 days before my 18 th birthday. No I was not pregnant either. He was in the Navy and going to be going to Puerto Rico for 3 years and I was going to. Well, like the Navy plans changed and he went on an Aircraft Carrier. I did get pregnant before my 18th birthday and now have a son 45 and daughter 42. Yes, we have been married 46 years. I gave up a lot and sometimes I wonder what I missed out on. My parents was against it and we had to elope. Things were a lot harder when I got married. There was no microwave and you cooked your meals in a stove. It was hard making ends meet. Praise God it is not today. But I will tell all of you it takes both of you working, because it doesn't get easier, you see people with other things and wonder. As a woman Pastor I try not to covet anything anyone else has. Good luck to you all and may God keep on blessing you.
I met my husband online in january , graduated high school in may , was engaged in August I was 18, and was married november 17th 2007 at 19 my birthday is halloween so i was just shy of turning 19! It was the best decision i ever made but i have a mature mind some people that get married young don't understand sometimes and by the age of 25 they are divorced. But here I am 7 years later married to my best friend and I love him with all my life!
Great post! i was married at 21. i guess depends on the person that age is young or not, but I've found that marriage is about love and work. it's not an age thing!! nobody really brings to light the 30 or 40 year old that get married, then divorced, for no good reason, in 3 years. what, where they too young too? love, work and stubbornness to stay together. i love that you say "give up" in quotations. cause you are right, you didn't give up anything! you create a life for yourself! living life alone is boring. Thank you for writing this, my sister got married at 19 and had a baby soon after and always refers to herself as, "well, i was too young." i don't know if she is saying she half regrets what happened or if she is just scared. probably more the later, but, she is the one who sent me this post! i can only assume is helped her emotionally in some way and was exactly what she needed to hear at the moment! Thanks!
This is literally the best thing I've ever read! I hate that so many people are so judgmental of young couples who want to marry, but in my opinion when its right you just know, no matter how young you are! When you've found the person that you truly want to be with for the rest of your life you can just feel it in every inch of your body and no one should be able to tell someone that they're "crazy" for getting married so young. Love your post!
Couldn't agree more with everything you have said. Thank you for posting!! I was married to my husband at 17. He was my first boyfriend and he had never really "dated" anyone else though he had a few interests, and we were both each others first kiss. I got pregnant with our first one month after our wedding and we now have an amazing 4 month old! Surprisingly we didn't get too much negative criticism about getting married. (Plenty about having our first so soon though!) We had both sets of parents 100% behind us which was such a blessing from God. (We always joke that it was really an arranged marriage lol) We are both full time missionaries, and both our parents live on the same street! (perhaps you can imagine some of the drama that can create.) We have been through so much together, I've really learned getting married young eliminates so much of the "set in" character qualities some older couples have to deal with. the "un-learning" bad habits process, because so much of your person is only starting to develop. But I agree 100% with the statement I would do it all over again in a heart beat!
that is so amazing! I got married 6 months ago and im 17:) congratulations on everything!! who knows, a baby might be soon in our future:) god bless!!
THANK YOU for writing this. I too was married at nineteen. I had family members and my best friend who told me that I should serve an LDS mission instead, but after a three-day courtship and 32-engagement, I married a man I barely knew, but who I knew loved and cherished me, and I him. After nearly fifteen months, two miscarriages, six months living with his family, unemployment, sickness, and a whole bunch of JOY, we're still going strong. I will never regret "giving up" my youth for marriage. Never.
I was married at the tender age of 16! No, I was not getting married because I "had" to, I was getting married because I fell madly in love with my best friend! Did I know all about love? Of course not! I think we continually learn what the true meaning of love is throughout our marriage. It's about hanging on in the good times and the bad, about being in love even when you don't feel very loving. Now 43 years, 5 kids and 14 grandchildren later
we are more in love than ever!!
"BUT the difference between me and you is I don't regret one day, minute or second of those years. "
Who says single people regret being single?? I don't. You do what's right for you. I do what's right for me.
And for all of you lamenting about how much better of a person it makes you to get married younger because you have to struggle so mud harder, here's some insight for you: YOU HAVE IT EASY!! While you share two incomes to support the household mortgage/rent, utilities, etc, single people have to do so with one income–or share with someone who they are not necessarily intimately connected with (sometimes just a roommate), or live at home with their parents until they can make more money. When it comes to making decisions, you have someone to throw ideas back and forth with while singles must make those decisions all on their own.
Both situations have their ups and downs but one is not better than the other.
Furthermore, several of your points are true in every monogamous, committed relationship–even without marriage. If you are truly committed and invested in someone, you don't have to have a piece of paper to adhere to the above 'confessions'.
It saddens me that your comment tends to have a bitter under tone…but I need to clear up one subject, income. Not everyone "have it easy" sharing two incomes. For the last almost 18 yrs we have lived on one income, We felt it best for me to be home with our children. All 8 of us rely on one income, not sure how you can call that easier than one depending on one income. Even though we are married, we still consult others when making big decisions. One last thought, it you are truly committed to someone, whats wrong with going through with the "piece of paper"?
I completely understand that, But at the same time, that was a choice you both made…to live on one income and support eight people. I never said there was anything wrong with "going through with the 'piece of paper'". I am a firm believer in marriage when the time is right for you. And yes, my writing did have a somewhat bitter response, but that's because I also detected a hint of bitterness in the writing, especially in the quoted piece I included in my writing which implied that those who choose not to get married for the listed reasons end up regretting not doing so earlier. What if someone doesn't find their love until later in life? Should they just settle with the first man that comes along all in the sake of experiencing the greatness of marriage (which would undoubtedly not be great since you are marrying the wrong person). To each his/her own. Divorce lawyers love these kinds of posts though.
I agree, thanks for your comments Mrs. Horne
I got married at 19 my husband was 20. We just celebrated nine years together and have three beautiful babies! I wouldn't change a thing! Thank you for posting this and congrats!
I was married 11 days after my 18th birthday, he was 23. You are right in that not everyone was excited or encouraging. I was told by a family member that they realized they made a mistake too late and hoped I knew what I was doing. I felt sure in the commitment I was making, and still do. I loved spending every available moment with him, loved waking up together and being able to curl up on the couch together after a long stressful day at work. 2 months before my 20th birthday we welcomed our first child, a son. Once again those know-it-all discouragers, thought I was nuts for having a baby this soon, one of my nurses at the hospital treated me terrible, she was disapproving of my "teenage pregnancy"…I informed her I may still only be 19, but I was just a few weeks from celebrating my 2nd anniversary. She was different after I cleared it up for her. Now after almost 22 yrs of marriage and six children later, I still get the comments, "there's no way you are old enough to have a child in college", "you don't look old enough to have 6 children", "they can't all be yours, you're too young", really? The truth is…I have enjoyed the last almost 22 years married to my best friend, we have welcomed 6 children into this family as a blessing from God of love for each other, next to him is where I feel most confident, complete and relaxed. I would still rather be with him than any other person on this earth. His last name that I carry is really who I am. I am still his and proud to be. I cannot imagine life without him. Our children 19-3 yrs old see daily expressions of love between their parents and can rest in the fact they have no reason to doubt dad and mom love each other, still after all these years. Did we make a mistake? No, our only regret is that we wish we would have gotten married sooner! Did I give it all up to marry young…no, I just gained it all a little sooner than others!
I got married at 22 to my husband who was 19 at the time, just 10 days before he went into basic training for the Air Force. We have been married for 5 and a half years so far, and they have been the most amazing years. When God brings you "The One" there is no reason to wait. I love my husband more and more each day, and am so grateful we got to start our lives together when we did.
Very well said! It is so true! I was married at 19 as well but I was preggo. We had planned on getting married the next summer but it just moved it up a bit. We were friends for 2 years before we dated and he was my first and only boyfriend! We have been married for 10 years now and have 4 kids, 3 girls and a boy! I can't even imagine going through this life without him. We put God at the center of our marriage and He is always steering us through the good and bad times! We have truly grown closer together and closer to God through our marriage. Thank you so much for sharing!
I was married at 19 aswell. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years now. I still receive all of these questions to this day.. and it doesn't bother me anymore. It actually makes me giggle a bit. I know there are people out there betting on the fact that we won't make it because we were married so young, and I know they will be so sour when we hit 50 years. Life goes on and everything happens for a reason.
Cherish every moment you have with each other and never let any other old hoot who doesn't approve stand in your way.
Live for eachother <3
I got married at 18, yes I was pregnant but that was not the reason I got married! Me and my husband dated when we were sophomores in high school and then went separate ways after about 6 months, we had different friends, lived in different towns, and completely different lives, but we ALWAYS stayed in touch! At one point when when I was 16 and he was 17 he packed up to move out of state to meet family from his biological fathers side… He moved back home for a bit and we got back together for a short time and then he went back to Missouri when we were both 18 (well right after my 18th birthday) Until I called him with news that changed both of our lives forever…. I was pregnant with his child…. I told NO ONE but him for 3 months, not my friends, not my mom, NO ONE but me and him knew… And as much as I wanted him to, I didnt expect him to come back home, he was 18 having fun, and neither of us expected this to happen… But one day he just showed up at my house and I knew from then on it was us against the world! We made it official July 16th of 2010 (Right after I graduated high school) And that was THE BEST summer of my life!!! We were inseparable we spend everyday together that summer, August 12th he asked me to marry him, by October 4th he had a great job, and October 9th we got married! We were still living with my parents until we saved enough money to move, and November 17th we moved out on our own, and had our son in January 2011! He is the most amazing man, husband, and father I could ever ask for! Since then we had a daughter in July of 2012, and another little boy just this past October! (They are really close in age! lol) But we have an amazing family, and could not be happier! This year marks our four years and its been amazing! Dont got me wrong we have had our bad days but the good outweighs the bad BY FAR! (= I heard all the same things, and told how stupid we were for getting married so young, and with each new baby we ware told that it was just going to get harder and put more strain on our relationship, in some way that was true but I couldn't picture my life any other way!! (= <3
I love this. It shouldnt matter how young you are when you get married. My husband and I got together when i was 17 and he was 26. We got married when i was 19. And everyone said i was to young itll never last. Well as of october 2014 itll be 6 years we have been married and 9 years in November we have been together.
I completely understand this… I got married at 18 and don't regret it a bit!
I loved this! Brilliant! I turn 19 at the end of this month, and I'm getting married in August to a poor Bible college student. (yay broke ministry families!) My fiance and I got engaged three months into our relationship. I heard all that stuff and more. And I don't care, because I have scarcely ever been more sure that something is God's plan for my life. Glad there are other young brides out there who totally get it 🙂
I too was a 19 year old bride and celebrating 19 years this year!!! No regrets! 🙂
I personally was not ready to be married at 19, but I do wish I would have gotten married earlier than I did at almost 29. The biggest plus I can see to marrying young is that it is so much easier for two to become one emotionally because they are still so pliable in their youth. When you are older and set in your ways, it can be like trying to meld together two pieces of concrete. But when you're both young and get to share the journey together of coming into who you really are, it's more like blending together two glasses of sand. I know many people think that you shouldn't get married young because you're still so immature and selfish. My response to that is that some of the most selfish and immature people I know are way past their teen years. If two young people love the Lord and each other and are able to support themselves then I say go right ahead.
I have friends are happily married young like you did or "supposedly the right age" which I did and friends who married later in life , friends who divorced then married another person. What I observe is that my friends and their spouses no matter what age they married show true trust and forgiveness towards each other. Another thing I observed is no matter what age friends were when he/she married, HUGE decisions like if they wanted to become parents where agreed upon before hand. Becoming a parent changes the marriage. I have friends who are choosing to have 1 child and then I have a friend who has 6 kids. Both are happily married, thriving kid(s) and are happy with their decisions as to how many and when they became parents. The world is not an easy place for a child grown in as it was when I was a child and young adult. I have 3 wonderful sons ,23, 18 & 10 years of age. So many choices each son has or will have to make that I didn't have to as a child.
Thank you so much for this. While I wasn't a teen, I was close enough when I married my wonderful husband. I was 21, he was 20. That was 36 years ago and we are still going strong. Yes, you give up a lot of "stuff" but that's really all it is, just "stuff". What you gain from "committing marriage" to someone who is equally committed to you is worth a thousand times more than anything you give up. I wouldn't trade my man for anyone and if any woman ever tries to take him from me, she will have a fight on her hands.
Thank you for sharing this! I'm 23 and just got married last September. Not quite 19, but I still get a lot of comments from people about how young I am to be married. I've known my husband for 5 and a half years now and we dated for most of those years. I'm so happy I have him and so sure that we made the right decision. I like hearing other young brides' success stories as they help me feel that I'm not alone! Thank you so much for sharing!
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Lovely! I love how brave you were to take such a big dession and start your life. I'm glad you did it with the right person , in the right place even when everybody thought wasn't the right time, you knew and god too that you were made to love each other.
Really Inspire me the way that you talk about your marriage.
Beautiful post! I too was married at 19 yrs old. Both of us were 19. But we knew we'd never love anyone else so why wait. I'm telling my age, but this year we'll celebrate 18 yrs of marriage. They have been the best 18 years of my life. And we now have two precious kids (7 yr old son & 5 yr old daughter) that I wouldn't trade for the world. Glad to hear someone else put so eloquently how I feel about marrying my sweetheart so young.
So my cousin posted this post on Facebook so I thought i'd read it…i didn't marry until 34 🙂 BUT I know your husband. he's a great guy, served his mission in houston tx and was in my ward for i think a good 6-9 months and over for dinner or at our house maybe weekly. he's a great guy with a great testimony 🙂 and my Facebook friend lol tell ashton that sis andrea mauss says hi! and to make a table side smoothie lol
My husband and I got married right after we turned 19. He was 19 and one month and I was 19 and a week. We had started dating when we were barely 14. I knew when we first met that we would be married. I know it sounds cheesy and hokey, but it is true. This August, we will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary and 29 years together. It hasn't been always easy, but marriage never is. It has ALWAYS been worth it and I would have married him even sooner if I could have. We never felt like we "gave up" anything, but we felt like we were "given" everything by having each other.
This was great to read. My husband and I have been together since we were 14 years old, and never broke up. He purposed 4 months after we graduated high school and we got married 3 years later. We married when we were 21, not as young as you, but still considered young. It will be 1 year in June, but a total of 8 years in November. A lot of people told us to wait, but getting married then wouldn't be any different than getting married later on. We would still love each other. So I didn't see why we should wait. I do not regret only being with him. Now a days people don't cherish love, they go from person to person to "experience" new people and new things. But I think that is a sad life. I think life is so much better having a partner to experience everything with. I don't have to worry about dressing up all the time, we both know we aren't perfect and that no matter what we look like we love each other. We can be ourselves and be happy. If I could go back, I'd do it all over again. I wouldn't trade my married life for a single life for anything. && Congrats to you! =)
Thank you! I got married on June 7th of last year, and it was actually one month before my 19th birthday. I got so many of these questions that I actually started to doubt myself. But I remember thinking similar thoughts, and it really helped me see that I was truly doing what was best for me. I am happier than I have EVER been! Being married young is the best!
Couldn't have said it better myself! My husband and I got married September 30, 2011. I was 19, he was 21 and in the Marine corps. A month later he left for Japan for two years. We walked down an extremely tough road during those two years but now we're happier than ever and I wouldn't change a thing. I would do it again in a heartbeat. ♥
Im not married.. yet. But Ive been been with only one man since I was 19 and I knew from then I wanted nobody but him. I didnt go off to college because I didnt want to leave him behind. Im always thinking whats best for us. I agree with this whole post 100%! Keep doing what youre doing!! 🙂 Makes me cant wait until we get married 🙂
Thank you so much for posting this. I am 19 and getting married this July (yay!) to my boyfriend who I have been with for 6 years. Readinf this and relating to every word you wrote brought tears to my eyes because I am so happy that someone understands! Instantly made my day 🙂
I also was married at 19. Have been married for almost 24 years. I have 2 children ages 22 and 17. I also have a beautiful granddaughter. It wasn't always easy but were still married. I would and will not change a thing.
BEAUTIFUL! I was married just after I turned 19, my husband turned 20 a few months later. We will celebrate our 24th anniversary in May. We have a 20 year old (almost 21) and a 15 year old (both boys). It isn't always easy but I wouldn't trade it for anything. We have grown up together and now have been together for more years than we were apart (before we started dating).
My fiance and I were going to get married this year but I became pregnant and it was becoming too difficult for us plan two things at once. My baby is due in 5weeks and we will be waiting on our marriage. But congrats on this life time experience you have with your man. My wedding won't happen until 2016 now. Family always comes first. 🙂
I just married, my husband, Zack, in February 22, 2014, and we are both 19, and from the first moment I seen him I knew he was mine forever, and I went up to him in November of 2012 on black Friday and ever since then we have been unbreakable. and I wouldn't change it for the world. and after everyone found out we were engaged, we got asked all the same questions, got annoying after awhile. but I love him, and he loves me! but im glad to see all these replies about other lives of marriage.
This is really touching. I got married when I was 19. And I got a bunch of hassle from everyone saying this marriage is wrong for you. You both are just so young live your life. But I met my husband when I was 15yrs old and I can truthfully say I loved him from day one. We don't really have a cut little story it's more of a funny one. Of course we haven't been married for 5yrs. This year will be our two years of been married. But my husband knows everything about me I breathe wrong and he can just tell something is wrong with me. We know each other like the back of our hands. He is my best friend and has been for many years. He is my rock and my strength when my health keeps getting worse and worse every time a doctor opens their mouth. I could never see myself getting married when I was younger cause I didn't want him to know my secrets but now I'm glad he does. He knows just what to say to make me laugh even when I hear the worst news! But I wouldn't change the fact we got married for nothing. I wasn't pregnant just in love with just him 🙂
Hey, i was lead to this post by a facebook friend who got married young like you, i think around 19, I just wanted to say that I think it's amazing that you are so dedicated to your husband and the lord and confident enough in your SELF to be able to commit yourself to someone at a young age. I'm 19 right now and definitely haven't found my eternal companion yet and if i had i think I'd still be scared to take the plunge right away, matrimony is not where i am right now, but your ability to trust in your Hubby, the lord and yourself so strongly is a great example for me as I go around looking for my Mister right. 🙂 thanks for this!
I got married at 18 and 9 years later we are still as happy and in love
Well said! This exactly how God intended for us to live. Not sleep around until you find the "right" one. I for one did not live up to the religious beliefs my parents brought me up in because they weren't truly mine at the time. So I, who did not marry or find "the one" at a young age, am the one who has many regrets. So much so that I've learned from them and raising my three beautiful girls the way my parenta raised me but I'm going to take it one step further and make sure they understand the reasoning behind it and that they embrace the beliefs as their own.
I will be 19 when I get married this August. Me and my fiancee have been together for almost 5 years now and we just welcomed our baby boy into the world on March 3rd. I may still be young but I wouldn't trade my family for the world. I feel that even though were getting married young and had a child young it just means more time we get to spend together. 🙂
Thank you for this. I married my wife when I was 19 and nearly 14 years later we are happier than ever. I still wake every morning and thank God for the privileged and blessing she is to me. We have four amazing children together and we continue our journey together.
I was married at 18, just 2 months after we graduated high school. We are now about to celebrate our 9 year anniversary and have 4 kids 🙂 everyday I am so incredibly thankful for him. I do have to say though…..you have to be wise in this decision. Not everyone should marry the person they are with at 18. I have recently watched several marriages fall apart. I suppose it s really the same at any age. Marriage isn't just for fun. Not just a long sleepover. It is your whole life, everything, forever. It is an amazing thing to have a partner for life when you have the right partner. I am so thankful I do!
All was lovely…………except the folly of the following: "Someone would know me so well that they would know what I needed without me ever asking." Counselor offices are filled with women married to healthy but confused husbands and the women lament "If he really loved me, he would know what I wanted without me telling him." And the counselors INVARIABLY declare, "That's too big of an UNFAIR burden to place on him: TELL HIM!"
This is well said i was married 5 days after i turned 18 to my wonderful husband of 8 years now. Everyone gave us a year maybe two but were still going strong after 8 years. I woudlnt change anything. Right after we were married a month after we moved to germany bc he was in the army. We got to see so much, traveled all time.He took me to paris for my 19th birthday. We lived there for 2 years though he had to do a tour in iraq for a year and half while i gave birth to our first daughter. We woudnt chane anything i dont know what i would do without him. Love your article it was very nicly said.
it was great reading that! I'm Brazilian and I also got married when I was 19 after a month dating!!! and we together for 10 years now and have 3 kids! I love my life and wouldn't do anything different!
I got married at 19 too! Actually, we both were 19. That was over 40 years, 5 children and 2 grandchildren ago! Wishing you a lifetime of love & happiness!
Thanks for writing this! I was 18 yrs old (juat 12 days after my birthday actually) when we got married. I spent my senior year in high school planning a wedding and combating all the statements you listed and more. Though I don't tell people they should do the same, sometimes it is right for some of us to take the leap young. After almost 22 years and 5 kids, I can say that with confidence.
I was married at 20 – and we still together and coming up on our 30 wedding anniversary. I would not change anything, We started our family 10 years after we wed but it was our decision and I am so glad we did – it gave us a chance to experience life together and enjoy each other before we brought three wonderful little people into our lives. You are right though those that go into marriage still thinking it is a me world will fail – when you marry there is no more me or I it is only us and remembering that you will last a long time.
I married my best friend at 18. This year we will be married 12 years. My grandparents were married at this age and were married 76 years until my grandfather passed away at the age of 96. While I was engaged (during high school) I had many of these questions to me and my reply always went back to my grandparents marriage that less than 100 years ago this was the appropriate age to be married and you were thought of as an old maid if you waited past your twenties. Back then people did not get divorced. Yet today getting married young is a stigma for "not knowing love" or too young to know what love is. I beg to differ. Love is finding someone that can hold you up when you are down, encourage you to be the person you were meant to be and be a companion. I never regret making the decision to get married & have children at such a young age. I would not have been able to have children had I waited because of an ovarian disease. I believe God had a plan for me & gave me my soul mate early. I am very lucky! I would not change one single day of my life!
I too was married at 19. I new my husband for 6 days before we were engaged and we were married 3 months later after being apart for most of that time (we lived in 2 different states) So I got the same questions as well as the "but you hardly know him!" We have been married for 17 years next weekend. It was the best decision I have ever made. Our union was orchestrated by God. We truly were meant to be together. He is my best friend. We have been through really really hard things that would tear most couple apart. They have solidified our relationship. I agree with Lesa that it does eliminate the set in behaviors IF you are mature enough to allow yourself to be molded. I hope you find inspiration and encouragement from all of us fellow teenage brides.
I love this! I met my husband at Ricks College, February 7, 1973 and we were married 3 months and 4 days later on May 11, 1973. 1 week later, on May 18 I turned 19. My husband had been to Vietnam and home a year when we met. He was 23. I tell people that after nearly 41 years of being married he still twitterpates me! (If you need a definition of twitterpate, google the word and watch the owl as he explains it to Thumper and Bambi!) We have a lot of fun together. We just went on a 3 week cruise to South America and Antarctica. I could have done that when I was younger and single, but so much more fun to be able to share it with my eternal love!
My husband and I got married at 19 & 20. He didn't serve a mission which raised even more questions from people. Neither family supported us and made things harder for it to happen. A bishop even told us that he would do anything to keep us out of the temple. We didn't get the wedding that we deserved, but the marriage is more than amazing. We're celebrating 22 years this year. (which, by the way, is longer than some of our doubters were married) Yes, marriage is work, but it's worth it, and when the other person is your best friend – then why all the doubt? It's between you, your spouse and your Heavenly Father. I wouldn't trade anything in the world for the life we have. My mother-in-law now tells us that she has never seen a more dedicated couple. 🙂 Oh, and people thought I was pregnant as well, but we didn't have our first of our 5 kids for 2 1/2 years after we married. Love, love, love this man!
Great article! My wife and I got married when we were 18 years old in 1989. We were both questioned extensively by many friends. November 11, 2014 will be our 25th anniversary! We have 2 sons that are now grown, that we are very proud of. I would definitely do it all over again!
Natasha – what a wonderful post! This was so BEAUTIFULLY stated! I was 18 and had pretty much everyone wondering what in the world I was doing marrying "that" guy. Saturday we celebrate 17 challenging, joyful years that I wouldn't trade for anything!!! And "that" guy is the one everyone wants now :)…hahaha…he is so MINE! And I am so grateful every minute that he is "My Greg". He is perfect for me – my absolute opposite in absolutely everything – and completely perfect for me. Thanks again for such a fun read, with such great timing – right before my anniversary this Saturday! xoxo
Sorry, just had to add my comment! I married when I was 18, heard all the comments – some even from my mom! But my love and I will be celebrating our 44th anniversary on April 6! 🙂 I don't regret a moment – even the rough patches because they helped us to grow and strengthen our love and our relationship. And I lay beside him at night and thank a loving Heavenly Father for bringing us together. He was stationed at the air base close to my home town. We met at church. We both were dating other people but knew when we met we were to be together. We got married 6 months after we met. It was meant to be. And I am so blessed.
Thanks, Natasha, for the perspective. My daughter will be getting married young, though she's older than you were when you married. From the parental perspective, she still seems young to me, perhaps because I still view her through lenses of wet towels left on the bed and dirty dishes in the tv room and not calling when she's going to be late–in short, irresponsible. And you remind me of this fact about myself: My husband asked me to marry him when I was 17. I said no, for a variety of reasons, but I am blessed that he asked me again when I was 24. I said yes, that time. A lot of my heart wishes I had said yes the first time. There was a lot of pain and heartbreak and unnecessary wounding in those few years that came from dating and uncommitted social life. So cheers, little sister! May you be married even longer than I have been (26 years this summer, and no end in sight).
I didn't get married until I was 33 years old. Six children, 24 grandchildren, and 46 years later it was the right decision for me. I had the opposite problem. "When are you getting married." "Well, you are next." "Oh, you are just looking for the perfect man." Etc., etc., etc. I just didn't let it bother me…I was having too much fun. Actually, I have the perfect man for me. And we have an eternal marriage.
I was 19 as well when we got married and I wouldn't change a thing! Sometimes you just know, and it doesn't matter what anyone else says. Almost 15 years later and 4 kids, and we couldn't be happier!
Wow! To hear such words of wisdom from such a young woman! I have that now, but didn't the first time I got married. I didn't' know what I deserved when I was younger. I think that's why people think getting married so young is stupid-but when you know you know! And if you are unwilling to live with out that person, you know! All we can ask for in life is to have people who truly know, understand, and most importantly LOVE us for who we are. Beautifully written! Just beautiful! I'm so proud that there are young women like you out there. It makes me feel like society isn't doomed after all! Good luck and congrats!
Love this post. I met my husband at 16, married him at 18, and had our first son at 19. Now almost 23 years later we have been blessed with our first granddaughter. We couldn't be anymore happy together than we were the day we got married.
I met my husband when we were 12 and 13. We dated off and on through our teens bit I was being dumb and pushed him away because I was scared he would leave me. My dad had died and I thought if I love this guy as Much as I lived my dad he would leave.me too. I finally came to my senses and married him at 23 and by 27 had three children. We just celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary and the only thing I would change is I would have married him sooner.
My husband and I married when I was 17 and he was 18 and this year we will celebrate our 22nd anniversary. I heard all the comments and "advice" you mentioned above + some. I won't say it was easy, I don't think any marriage is. Relationships as a whole take work, give and take. But I believe that there is something to be said for growing/maturing together that makes a relationship stronger. We were fresh out of high school with nothing to our names, we were a one income little family with lawn cushions as living room furniture, a bed and some yard sale finds. But we were (and are) happy. He put me through college and we built a life together, both giving up this and that for the other. We both gave up so much and "invested" so much in our relationship that we were not willing to give it all up. Today our foundation and source of strength is found in Christ Jesus. We would do it again in a heartbeat. Blessings to you and your husband!
I can totally relate to this article! I fell in love with my husband the first time I saw him my 7th grade summer. There was just something different about him. We never dated, only spoke a few syllables, but when he got back from his mission, I had just graduated high school and we married later that same year. I was 18. I had dated 3 whole people, 2 that don't even count haha. I knew he was the one. Everyone questioned me, especially since I hadn't dated enough to know. But I knew. And 13 years later and 4 kids within 5 years, we have a wonderful strong marriage and I am more in love with him than ever. Love is such a beautiful blessing 😉
May you always be happy. There will be many ups and downs over the years, but marriage is hard work. I was married at 18, and we just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary.
I was married at 19 also and got all the same questions! It will be 17 years for me and my husband this year, and I wouldn't trade it for anything! Even still people make comments regarding my age at marriage, "HOW long have you been married? Are you old enough to have kids that age? Was it because you got pregnant?" You learn to deal with it in amusing ways. When someone says, "Were you 15 when you got married?" I say to them, "No way, I was 13" and smile. I didn't have plans to get married or have children because of the childhood I had. I didn't want to inflict that on any other person. I dated, never really seriously, until I met Michael. I actually remember being angry when things got more serious and we were spending ALL our time together. I had the thought come to me – "you will regret it forever if you don't marry him" so I did, at 19. I am SO grateful to have him in my life, and I wouldn't want to be here without him. Marriage is an adjustment at ANY age. Getting married when you are older, doesn't give ANYONE a better chance for a successful marriage. You have to work at it, put someone else before you, and make sacrifices, but the joys and benefits are so much greater!
As a youth we carried around a card with President Kimball on one side and prosaic advice on the other saying the proper order of priorities was seminary and high school graduation, mission, temple marriage, children, and then education. While circumstances may effect these, sage advice. Somewhere since (and probably why the advice required prophesy) we acquired this "need" which states that "life" sits between high school and "settling down." This entire new stage of life has grabbed prominence during our 35 years of marriage, acquiring an air of vital necessity to happiness. Rather this counterfeit is just an emphasis on "me" rather than, as you and many have discovered, life is best about "we." Life really is better facing it, enjoying it, building it together. Now the only thing that has changed is that more young women will squeeze a mission between high school and marriage — a lot more RM's on both sides of the altar. My wife would emphatically endorse marriage at 19 and motherhood barely turned 20. Tough years; but almost daily we share fond memories of those first few years
Awesome story!! I heard those too! I was married at 18. This november we will be celebrating 16 years of ups and downs and hard times and good times and 3 kids and 5 different states we've lived in… I wouldn't change it for the world!
I absolutely love this:) it brought tears to my eyes because THIS is my life. exactly. right now. Call me crazy but I got married at 17:) its only been 6 months but I am SO incredibly blessed! During our engagement almost everyone we told had only good things to say! and how PROUD they were of us for breaking away from our generation and moving in with each other and testing the grounds first. and of course there were a couple are you pregnants but we didnt let that phase us:) and now were renovating a house together and going to move is soon! our lives are starting to take off:) together:) and none of that would have happened if we would have waited untill i was at least 18..God is really amazing:)
I got married at 32 and still heard many of the same things. My sisters all got married much younger than I did. I wish I'd gotten married earlier for a lot of reasons, but it wasn't meant to be. I love being married. I lived a lot before I got married, I did all kinds of cool stuff, but being married is far better than all the adventure garbage I spent my 20's doing. Great post, by the way!! Love it!
My parents met when my mom was 17. She graduated, turned 18, and they were married within 6 months of meeting each other. They have now been married for 25 years and are still completely in love with each other. When you've found the right person, it doesn't matter how old you are!
Good Job! We may be called peculiar but we are also called happy.
I started dating my husband when I was 18. Married him when I was 19. 5 kids, 13 years, and 4 states later he's still the love of my life. With him I've become the person that I've always wanted to be. Life hasn't been easy especially as he pursued a masters and doctorate, but through trials we are refined and become beautiful like a piece of silver being polished. We both say we don't think we could have come so far if we didn't have each other. I guess that's what happens when you have two people dedicated to loving each other no matter what 🙂
I am so happy someone is finally explaining this to the world. I am 17 and I've been married for half a year now and I wouldn't change anything about my wonderful life and amazing husband.
Even though our blogs couldn't be more opposite I want you to know how much I love this blog post! I would never take back my decision of getting married when I was just 19, even knowing what would happen. I have learned so much through my trials and can only hope I can be a better wife/woman when I do marry again. This time truly for time and eternity! Thank you so much for this post and I look forward to seeing future ones! 🙂
I married my wonderful husband on my 20th birthday 37 years ago!! Our marriage has been such a blessing. We have a son, a daughter, a 3 yr old granddaughter and 18 mt old grandson. Young love can last. All it takes is commitment from both of you. Divorce was never an option.
I got married the August following my high school graduation. I was a couple months shy of 19. My husband was a couple months shy of turning 21. We had dated for 2 years before we got married. We celebrate 20 years this August! 🙂 We have 3 great kids (and nope, I wasn't pregnant when we got married.)
I was married at 17, he was 21. I had been praying for a husband from as young as I could remember. We were so in love. Or so I thought. We had three kids together, but grew apart, grew into different people. I knew of no other relationship, he was first, and I thought that was how it was supposed to be, but after 7 years we divorced when he became abusive. I wish I would have waited. I am, however, who I am because of it, and who knows where I'd be if things were different.
Let me give you the other side of this story, from a perspective of 40 years later! I got married at 15! Yes, I said 15. I became a mother at 16. Life is not all lollipops and roses when you get married so young. For some it works, for others it works for awhile, and for the rest, not at all. In my generation, you were pretty much expected to get married out of high school. Women were taught to be wives and mothers from the time they were little. When I got married at 15, I knew how to cook, sew, do the laundry, clean the house and take care of a baby. But, here's the thing…as you get older, you change. The things that you thought you wanted as a teenager changes. Sometimes one person in the marriage outgrows the other. The worse part is that when low paying jobs, skyrocketing expenses and growing apart happens, the frustration and circumstance often leads to abuse and divorce. What I've found out as I've gotten older is this: You have the biggest part of your life to be married and be a parent. That first 20 or so years of life is such a very small part of life. Enjoy it! Get your education, have girlfriends, date different people. Have the time of your life! The reason so many people tell you not to get married so young is because they speak from experience. If I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be "wait". Wait to grow up, wait to leave home, wait to be a mother. Just wait..and then when it's the right time, be the very best wife and mother that you can truly be.
Thank u so much for writing this. It is so beautifully written. And everything I feel also. I met the man I would later call my husband when I was 14 years old. He was my very best friend. When I was 18 and he was 19 we got married. I heard all of these same questions/opinions. But like u, I didn't listen to anything but my heart. 12 years after meeting the love of my life, we just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary. We also just celebrated the birth of our 3rd child (first girl) 2 months ago. Marriage is hard. It's a struggle every day. But I believe if u want something bad enough u have to work for it. And it is definitely hard work. But it makes it a little easier that I fall a little deeper in love with my husband everyday. I could easily just throw in the towel and get a divorce like so many people do. But why? If u truly want/care for something so much then it's worth fighting for. Again, thank u for writing this. It is beautifully written and I enjoyed reading it so much. It reminded me a lot of myself.
I met my husband when I was 18, we married when I was 19 and he was 21. 6 children, and 2 grand children later, we will be celebrating our 25th anniversary this July. We grew up together and learned about life together and we have never regretted this beautiful life God has given us. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story..you made me relive my own and it is such an amazing journey from then to now…can't wait for what is to come!!!
Thank you for your perfect words, married at 19 now married for 19 years
I absolutely love this article! I just recently got engaged to the man of my dreams. I have known him for 6 years. I met him through my brother. He was the lead singer in his band. I had the biggest crush on him from 6th grade on. He's 4 years older than me so he paid me no attention we were just really good friends. When he graduated it crushed me because he started dating a new girl and after living togwther a while they got engaged and married. At that point of engagement she made sure I never spoke to him or saw him again. 3 years of being married he found out she jad cheated on him and he refused to put up with it so he kicked her out. In the meantime earlier that month I had went through a terrible break up myself. It wasnt how much I cared about my ex. He cheated on me then proceeded to tell me how awful and ugly and fat and miserable I was. Not to mention goimg through depression the last 3 years from losing my dad to cancer. My depression went into overdrive because I felt so worthless. My fiance and I were both in bad places. I went to therapy and he was still trying to figure out what happened. One night I saw he accepted my friend request after 3 years of pending. Immediately he messaged me and we started catching up. The next day he started coming over and we started seeing each other. We both were scared because I didn't want to be a rebound to my "first love" and we didnt understand how our lives were fitting together so perfectly. We never really made our relationship "official" just from that first night we were nothing but happy. Everyone was so happy for us to see real smiles for the first time in a while. About a month after we reconnected we started living together. And although I was 17 and doing my senior year online ( for the depression) most people would say that's stupid but we had already promised we would spend the rest of our lives together. We needed to see if we would be compatible to live together. And of course we still do. Weve been together 7 months now we are getting married in 6 months and we have never been happier. Although people may judge us. This friendship/relationship has survived anything and everything and I know that there is no one more perfect for me
Congratulations on your marriage! LIke you, I was married as a teenager. At 17, one month and one day after I graduated from high school. I was engaged during the Spring of my Junior year. During my Senior year I had lots of the questions you had. People looking strangely at me, whispering as I walked by. My husband graduated two years before me. So it was me alone at school. When asked, why are you doing this? My response, "why not!; because I want to!". My mother went with my fiance and me to the courthouse to sign the paper to give me permission to be married, since I was not considered an adult. I think no matter what age or when you decide to make this commitment there is going to be questions from someone. You need to do what's best for you. Who decides that??? …. you do!!!!
My high school sweetheart and I will celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary in July. We have three children, two sons, one 20, the other 16, and a daughter who is 11.
Seek God!
Don't go to bed mad!
Trust and communication are the keys to a successful marriage!
Best wishes to all those considering getting married, recently married or those that are veterans!
I married my husband over 26 years ago, at age 18, after knowing him for 2 months. I have never been happier. I did tell my children that we were the exception and not to plan or try to marry so young. They just needed to plan or try to find the right person, at what ever age that is for them. But I have never and I mean never thought I missed out on anything.
Just wanted to say best of luck in your marriage. I actually met my husband when I was 19 and after 7 years together we got married. I think that if you truly love a person and work together through any problems life throws at you everything works out. It doesn't matter what age you are. My husband and I will be celebrating our 13 th & 6th anniversary on July 3Rd. (we got married on the anniversary of the day we met.)
Yep I married at 19, had a baby when I was 20 and we are still together 10 years later and happy, very happy!
I am not married yet but this really hit home for me. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 1/2 years and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We have been talking about marriage and we know we will be, but some of our families are so against it, it has become almost a war. We are both 21 and he's going into the army. I am fully prepared to go with him and do whatever it takes to make this relationship flourish. This post has only strengthed my resolve! Thank you for this, it has truly helped me!
Such a great article; glad my friend shared it on Facebook. I too was 19 when I married my husband John. We are going on our 24th anniversary this June. What has made our marriage a success and lasting is Christ at the center. So proud of you as a young lady sharing your heart this way. I will be sharing this with others.
I just told someone last week that I think getting married super young is awesome, and then they proceeded to say they feel sorry for people who get married so young. I don't get it. I got married at 19 also. My husband was only 18. We had our first son 18 months later. Everyone thought we were expecting a baby, and we got lots of you are CRAZY! We had 2 more sons 8 and 10 years later. Then one week after our 20 year anniversary we welcomed a little girl into our family. If I see freinds that I haven't seen in awhile I tell them I had a baby because otherwise they think I'm a grandma. Most people can't believe all my kids are from the same dad. Anyways all this to say. I am so thankful to have found my husband young. We have grown and changed together. I am so happy for that. So this year it will be 23 years and counting.
You gave up being my neighbor when you got married….you didn't mention that one in the blog post. 😉
Me and my husband were both 20 with a baby on the way when we got married December 2013. Both our families didn't agree with us getting married after only dating 1 year and 3 months. This past year has been rough with a new baby and us both losing our income and having to move back in with his family. But were getting through it slowly and he is everything I ever wanted in a man. I suffer from severe depression and his family doesn't understand any thing I got through and he is always their when I need him and he tells me every day that I'm the best thing that happens to him and vice versa. I don't see why people have a problem with it now a days. If you think back 80 years, if you weren't married by 20 you were considered old. I was raised by my great grandma and she thought me not to care what other people think. The only people you should care what they think is your spouse and GOD. Because ubove all he the all mighty and he is the father of us all.
I was married at 19, also. Will be celebrating our 19th anniversary this year. My husband was only 18. If I could do it over I definitely would. Not my choice of men, but I would wait til I was older to marry him. I would've went to school and became more responsible and did what I couldn't after I was married. I just needed to grow up. It's only by Gods grace that we made it through those first years, because let me tell you, we were both stubborn and hard headed and we did NOT make it easy for each other to stay together 🙂 If my kids meet someone when they're 18 and they want to get married, believe me, they will not have an easy sell to their parents! Marriage is hard enough when you're older. Being a teenager made it even harder. It sounds like some can't say that and that's because they were more mature than me, but like I said…for ME I should've waited. For my husbands sake 😉
I was also married at 19 years of age and 11 months later we had our first child. I got all the comments and more especially when we had a child so soon after getting married. But six weeks after we had our first child – first grandchild for my parents my father died unexpectedly. I have never regretted being married at 19, We have now been married for 35 years this October (2014). The only thing that was possibly strange was not being able to tell my children what to expect at 20, 21, 22 etc. as by 24 years of age we had three children. So even though I might not have know what it was like to be in your 20s and single it never stopped me from being there for these children. So even though we had 3 children by the time I was 24 – we had another child when I was 39 – yup she took 15 years to get here and we would not have changed it for the world. She keeps us young.. and I would do it ALL again in a heartbeat. But it is not for everyone – I could never see my children married at that age and in fact the three oldest all got married when they were 27 years old – it works for them and that is the important part. In fact I am grateful each day for getting married at 19..
I was married when I was 17 1/2 years old & I don't regret it at all. I have a wonderful hubby and a sweet step son and baby girl. They complete me and make me better than I ever was on my own. I love this article so much <3
I love this and couldn't have said it better myself. I've told people all of those things and some still don't understand. I was married exactly three months after I turned 18. We've been married now for 5 1/2 years and they've been the absolute BEST years of my life. 🙂
I married at 19. We were engaged after two weeks. We had seen each other in a college class. We celebrated 28 years Jan. 2014
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS PIECE!!! I was young and moved fast with my husband but I wouldn't change ANY of it!!! I was 17 when we met. 19 when he proposed…. planned on getting married 3 years later but 2 months after he proposed we found out I was pregnant. 20 when we got married (July '01) 20 when we had our first child (October '01) 22 when we had out second child (May '03) and July 2014 we will be celebrating our 13th Anniversary. I love my husband more and more as the days go on. We have grown together, learned together, messed up together, loved together, and most importantly, we are raising our children together!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story!!!!
I so agree with everything you said. I too, was married at 19, and 40 years later I can still say it was the best thing I ever did. Anything I might have missed out on early in life, I get to enjoy now with my sweetheart. Anything I missed out on, was more than made up in what I have experienced the past 40 years! Great wisdom from one so young.
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 18. This June 1st will be our 8 year anniversary and we will be married the same day. We now have a beautiful 4 month old. I would not trade our time together for anything in this universe.
I love this! Marriage is such a dark picture in so many people's minds. They take the disagreements and fights as a deal breaker. I know that if you both want it to work it will.
I just got married about 6 months ago. I'm 19, and was 19 when I got married, I couldn't have said this any better myself! I love my husband. Everyone asked If I was pregnant or why I would want to marry so young? All I could say is, you just know when it's the forever kind of love!
Good for you on your lessons learned by marrying young. Some of us have different life paths and missions to fulfill. Perhaps I should write the thing I have "lost" by being a never been married guy in his early 40s in the LDS Church…
I am so glad things are working out so well. Frankly the stats are so against young marriages and many problems like depression, feelings of missing out, and mid life crisis appear when folks get into the mid 40's. So many go back to school, try to find themselves, or try to seek those young experiences they realize they missed out on when they hit their mid 40's. I hope all of your happiness lasts for decades. Often it does, but the risks above are higher for earlier marriages in my experience in counseling and working with people. Time will tell.
Congrats on a long and healthy marriage! I agree that marriage isn't doomed to fail just because of your age. Personally, I was nowhere near ready at 19. If I got married I that young I think I would have regretted it. But that doesn't mean that others can't be blissfully married at that age. It's a matter of personal differences. It is so hard for some to completely accept that a couple getting married so young will be successful, because not all of us are mature enough at that age to make such a commitment. When I became engaged many people offered me advice based on what their own experiences in marriage were like. They actually warned me that I would hate the first year, and after 2 years it just goes downhill and never bounces back. "It's just like having a room mate" they said. RIDICULOUS! I've been married 4 years and feel like each year is more wonderful than the last. I'm glad that I didn't listen to the nay-sayers and made my decision based on what I thought was best for me.
I'm glad this has worked out for you, but teenage marriage does NOT work out for everyone!
I'm so glad to hear of you and your husband's great relationship, but just wanted to point that out.
Also, something of mild irritant–you did give up your name, but NOT your identity. You didn't give up your family before, your life, or who you were. It's SHARING a name. Sure, you took his name–out of respect and custom–but you are not, per say, HIS name.
I think it's great that you're happy, but I would love to see a disclaimer or something on this because so many of my friends have married so young, and they weren't ready to be married. The only reason they did it was because it was "cool" to be married and then they "wouldn't have to go it alone."
Please make sure that some of the comments you disproved you are not disproving for everyone.
You were a very young bride, and it seems to be the happiest thing of your life! That is awesome. Everyone is different. But at the same time, most young marriages do not work out. I don't want this blog post to become the anthem for immature marriages for 98% of teen brides.
I got married at 17/still in highschool and I love this. We just celebrated our two years of being married last month and we're still so happy, still in the honeymoon phase 😉
I love this. I had just turned 21 and my husband (then fiancee) 19 1/2 :-). My grandmother, meeting him for the first time, said, "He looks so young!" I laughed and said, "He is, he's 19!" He also (still…24 years later) had a baby face. When people divorce, their first excuse is usually that they were too young (even if they were 30!), followed closely by them admitting they didn't know themselves well enough. I'd offer that the second reason and completely out of the world dreamy expectations are the better candidates.Growing up together, facing trials and standing strong in the Lord, holding on tight during the rollercoaster of life is what makes the marriage/friendship/romance go on.
My wife and I were engaged when she was 18 and married when she turned 19. She had our first daughter nine and half months later when she was still nineteen. We have now been married just short of 45 years and have ten children and thirty one grandchildren. After fifteen years of marriage, my wife was diagnosed with MS and her health has deteriorated to the point that she is in an electric wheelchair and only has the use of one hand. That means I have the privilege of dressing her in the morning and putting her in bed every night. I prepare the meals and feed them to her spoonful by spoonful. She is more beautiful to me now than when we were married just short of forty five years ago. She has gone to the women's conference tonight because I am blessed with the health to dress her and get her there. In one hour, the phone will ring and I will get to go pick her up. She has given me so much with ten children all active in the church all but the last missionary daughter married in the temple. I am honored to help her enjoy her life despite what MS has done to her body. Yes, I would do it over again at 19 and next time, I hope we have a dozen children because they are cheaper by the dozen.
Congratulations! I have noticed people are waiting later to get married now. We were 20 when we got married, that was a little over 30 years ago. We still date, which has been a good thing. We knew that when our nest was going to eventually empty, it would be back to 'just us' and we needed to make sure there was still an 'us' to go back to.
We weren't your typical young people to marry, we had also just started out in business and we worked together 10-14 hour days! We've worked together most of our marriage and we enjoy working together. Now we work separate, me from home, and sometimes he works from home. We try to go out a couple times a month. We're down to the last 3 (teens) at home, the older 3 children are in their twenties and all married. We are looking forward to growing old together and getting to do things together all the time when our nest is empty. All six of our children have turned out wonderful, they all value family, and are all in church. I tell people the keys to our successful marriage and family is keeping God in the center of things, keeping your spouse next because they will be there when the children are grown (if you keep your priorities straight), teaching your children cause and effect so that they learn to make wise life decisions, making time to date your spouse, and building memories/traditions with your family.
Trust me you didn't break the record! I got married at 18(and still months away from turning 19). I actually got married one year to the date after I graduated high school, lol! I definitely got a lot of people trying to talk me out of it(my parents, for one), who thought I was not old enough to make a decision like that. But guess what? I was! Heavenly Father helped me to know that I was making the choice he wanted me to make. and I have never regretted it. We are going on 13 years and three kids later, and with all that time under our belts being a married couple, we are as happy as can be. I have friends who are just getting married, and I love that they can look to my marriage for hope that it can be done! Yes, I was extremely immature at 18(and 19, and 20…well, ok, I can still be immature!), but I have grown so much, just as my sweet husband has. And I knew when I met him that he would be my best friend and partner forever, so why would we want to wait on beginning that relationship?
On another note, my sister in law was married at 17(with the permission of her parents obviously, and no, she wasn't pregnant!). They have been married for over 20 years, with five kids…so another success story of a young bride.
Oh and my husband is 4 years older than me, as well, and interestingly, we met at dance through our church(he had just returned home from serving a mission for our church), and we were engaged within 3 weeks of meeting, and married 5 months later. I am so thankful everyday that I didn't have to wait around to meet my soul mate!
Personally, I am very happy I waited till I was 25 to get married. It gave me time to spread my wings and learn to stand on my own two feet. The extra time helped me learn to step out of my comfort zone, grow up, meet many different kinds of people, finish 5 years of college, travel to Europe, and even serve a mission for my church. My husband and I have been married for 20 years now and have 6 beautiful children, ranging in age from 19 to 12. I would never have been ready to get married young, and that's okay. People are different, and that's a good thing. For me, I needed the time to mature and learn to truly sacrifice and listen. I don't regret the choices I made. I made them through much prayer and faith, and nothing could make me happier in my life than knowing I am on the right path for me and moving forward in my growth and progression. I think people need to be careful not to make those who marry young or older feel guilty or somehow wrong. It is not our place to judge others. People used to ask me when I was young why I was so "picky" since I wasn't married yet. I didn't want to be rude, but oh how I sometimes wanted to answer, "I'm not choosing cereal here. It's not a choice between Captain Crunch and Cocoa pebbles." I just knew in my heart I would KNOW when I met the man for me, and I did. It wasn't always easy waiting to meet him when so many of my peers were getting married and having babies, but I am so glad I didn't jump the gun and marry just to be married. Marrying the right person when it's the right time for you is much more important than how old you are. We just need to understand that marriage is not a piece of cake or a bed of roses. It is beautiful and amazing, but it takes work. One should not make such important promises lightly or be unprepared to love unconditionally and serve unselfishly. Whenever we marry, we should feel prepared to give our hearts and become one with the love of our lives.That doesn't mean we should put off marriage for selfish reasons, but it doesn't mean we have to jump right in if we don't feel ready either. And becoming one doesn't mean Giving Up Yourself For another person; it means Giving Yourself To the other person because you trust that Together you will find enduring love and happiness:) Wishing you joy on your life journey!
Thank you so much for your comment! I agree with you completely, everyone is at a different place and there is no right time, or age to marry. For me, it worked to marry so young, and I was ready. But, like you shared in your experience, sometimes getting married older is a better choice. It all depends on you. I also agree that there should not be judgement with this decision, which is why I wrote my post. I just wanted to share that not all young marriages are a bad idea, and that in many cases it can be a wonderful thing! Like you said, at whatever age, the important thing is when you get married you should be ready to give your heart and become one with your spouse. Because, that, not age, is what makes marriage work! Thanks again for your thoughts, I enjoyed reading them!
I agree! Thanks for sharing, Natasha! I know you will be blessed in your efforts to connect with and help others:)
~Kelly
Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this perfectly written piece!! I was 15 when my mom signed for me to marry my husband. I'm 38 now and we're going on 23 years of marriage and 8 children later. I wouldn't change a thing. I don't regret anything about it and surely don't feel like I've missed out on anything! Congrats to you! !
My hubby & I married when I was 19, one month before my 20th birthday. We had the exact same comments, particularly because we met August 8 & married September 11, the same year. We knew we were right for each other, my family had to move quickly, & wouldn't have been able to afford to come to my wedding if we waited, so we married right away. We've been married 27 years, have a daughter almost 26, & a son almost 25. Marrying my hubby is the single best thing I've done for myself. Yes, we've had hard times, we've had people try to split us up, but I'm so incredibly grateful for my hubby, and the many blessings he as added to my life! Realizing that this person is who you want to be with forever, there is no reason to wait for anyone else's opinions! Best of luck!
Becky
Thank you thank you thank you!!!! My fiance and I got engaged when we were 19, just a month before he turned 20 and two months before my birthday. We are aiming for a wedding when he gets home from deployment and will both be 21. Even with that, so much of my family disapproves. And forget about talking to college kids about it. Heck no. "you haven't lived!" Excuse me, I raised myself, my brother, I've been to multiple states and around 7 countries (not including different islands in the Caribbean). I met my fiance going on 7 years ago our freshman year in high school. We were friends, then drifted, then didn't see or hear from each other for about 8 months, i was in college, in in the Corps, and guess what? When we met up just to catch up, the rest is history. Coming back to school and leaving where my fiance is stationed is harder and harder because all I want to do is start our lives and be a family. I've NEVER been one for casual dating or anything like that. Sure its some people's thing, it was my mother's, but not me. I feel blessed that I found the person I'm going to spend my life with at such a young age. It give us more time to grow and live together, as a we, not as a him or me. And that is beautiful. Thank you for this. Its so refreshing in this world of "23 things to do besides getting engaged at 23" And people not having kids until they are 40. I wish they would wake up and realize that THEY are the ones breaking the norm. Both of my grandmothers married at 16, THAT was normal. I wish I could give you a huge hug, this is gahhh I can't even tell you. I'm having to go home this weekend and tell my mother we want to plan our wedding for next summer and she is NOT going to be happy about it. Thank you
Dang girl, you are spot on. Well stated. Can I use this piece on a blog post I am doing?
Thank you! Sorry it has taken me a while to respond to your comment, I have been working on responding to many comments, and it takes some time! But, if you are still interested, you can use my piece, I would just ask that you share my link along with it, citing it back to the original source, and me as the author.
No Worries :0} Will do on the link and citation. Thank you so much!
It seems that no matter when you get married people will harass you for your decisions. I'd love to have married sooner but didn't meet my husband till I was 30. So the remarks & questions I got were "are you going to the dances and singles activities?" "Are you doing everything you can to meet someone?" "Maybe you should…x,y,z", "Are you engaged yet?" (that one from a woman who I hadn't seen in about a decade, and that was the 1st thing she asked me.)
Everyone's path is different. Some find their spouses young, some a little older than is common in LDS culture (though still considered young to the rest of the world) and some not till they're middle aged or old. As long as the Spirit is your guide you are OK. If the spirit confirms your decision to marry young – or old – then that is what is important. We still "give up" the same things you expressed by the way. Well said. And it's a wonderful experience no matter what age you are.
Whenever I get discouraged with what people say about my engagement, I go and read this article. People can say and think whatever they please, but I know God brought my fiance and I together for a reason. In August my fiance and I will have been together for 3 years and will be getting married fall or 2015 and I wouldn't change our time together for the world. Reading this article and the comments show me that statistics don't mean anything. Thank you for posting this.
I understand your sweet story. I also married at 19. That was 46 years ago. The journey get sweeter everyday. I wouldn't change a single thing.
My daughter was barely 20 when she was married in March! Still a little girl in my eyes, but she is with her best friend, soul mate, confidant and protector!! I adore her choice and they grow happier every single day, if that's possible!! Such a mature, outgoing, caring couple. They love being together. Everyone has their own timeline. This was theirs!
Thanks, I thought I was the only one of the many few that got married at a young age, I married my husband at age 19 and he was 23, we had know each other for 4 years since I was 15 and I don't regret nothing, now its been a year and a half being married and we have a baby girl that is 3 months old i just love her so much and my husband I don't want to change anything that I have done,but people had told me that I wasn't ready for marriage and I should get to meet more new people but all I know is that I love him and that is the person I want to spent my years with, I thank God for all the blessings in this marriage, May God bless your marriage from now and many more years to come.
I'm not married but my mom has been with my dad since she was 14 married when she was sixteen And have been together for 30 years next Feb 25 year military.
At the age of 15 my husband and I began planning our wedding. We were married when I was 17 and he was 18. It has been the best years of my life(almost 3 years) and we have the most handsome (Almost) 2 year old boy and we were told be people that we were making a huge mistake and it wouldn't last 6 months. These people would hardly talk to us until we'd been married for a year. All I can say is I'm thankful we got married young so we could "change" for each other (bad habits that annoyed the other,see how th other liked things organized and the like) if we had waited it may have been a harder marriage in the beginning, it was already hard enough with a few people spreading the rumor I had been pregnant for two years (yeah it didn't make sense) and these people had never met me. My point is, it's hard getting married at a young age, from people around you not being supportive and to the financial side of things.
I agree with everything you said. I was married at 18. We met and started dating in May 1979 and got married December 1, 1979. So we didn't date for very long before we got married. We have had our ups and downs but what marriage doesn't….all those trials have made our marriage stronger. We will be married 35 years this December and I would do it all over again. I love my life, my husband and my family. We are grandparents to 14 wonderful grandkids….again thank you for sharing!!
At 21, I have been watching myour friends get married and start families and never once thought they were two young. Some of them, sure I disagreed with but that's because they don't work well as a couple. I don't find anything wrong with marrying young and I loved your post about your experience and that "giving up" things for them is okay. I am madly in love and are planning to wed somewhat soon. Your post has helped me to not let the people who are doubting us get us down. Thank you. Your blog is truly beautiful, as is yourself and family.
This is truly such an encouraging blog to read, really. I met my boyfriend when we were 14 and went to separate high schools…almost 5 years later we're now in college together. It honestly is so frustrating to hear so many people, my mom especially, discourage and put down the relationship saying its not real, I'll find someone better, etc. The same stuff you got told and more I'm sure! You are so strong. I cannot be happier that I read this, as it only helps me feel like not everyone is against me and my relationship!
I love this article so much!! I was 18 going on 19 when I started dating my husband & we got married a little over 3 months after I turned 19 on July 6th 2012. We have for sure had a tough marriage because my husband was gone more then he was home (because of work) in our first year of marriage, basically we had "visitation rights" every other weekend. I was driver license-less (Just got my permit about a month ago- Woot woot!), friendless most the time (moved from a town I lived in since I was almost 4 to Oklahoma City area) so I had to try & make new friends, which was hard (I have a hard time trusting people because of past experiences), we switched churches twice up here & I stayed in our apartment most the time watching movies/tv. I depended on my father-in-love & sister-in-love to bring me places to go grocery shopping. This year since we celebrated our first anniversary hasn't been so hard on us. My husband got a new job in August 2013 where he is home more then he is gone (he has stayed over night some place like maybe 15 nights, if that), we were foster parents to his nieces for 2 months (which was a battle everyday to keep our marriage going), then ever since then we've finally been able to have a marriage where we get to spend time with each other & just enjoy each other like a newly wed couple gets to do in the first year.
I knew marriage was gonna be hard, but what came as a surprise to me as a young bride was how much life cost, no one ever sat down with me & told me in the first few years you will struggle financially (which now I've heard it from a few people) & how much everything cost & how you might be living from paycheck to paycheck & your husband will have to pawn his guns or trombone he has had since he was 15 to help pay bills to only lose them. Thank God with my husband's job came a $8 raise from what he was making before. And life will be better once I get my driver's license because I can finally go get a job & save up money for whenever we have a baby.
I also forgot to mention my husband is 10 years older then me. I am his second wife (first wife cheated on him & left him for the man she cheated on him with), he was 19 when he married his first wife & she was the same age. Marriage has for sure changed my life & gives me a new perspective on life.
You summed up beautifully what I've been thinking for the past 8 1/2 years. I was married 4 days after turning 18 and I received similar questions and worse. I was scared but I was also determined that this was what I wanted and where I needed to be. We'll celebrate 9 years of marriage this September and the only thing I regret is that we had to have a justice of the peace wedding. Every moment since then has been better than I dreamed of, even the fights and the struggles because they made us think and grow. However, I am the first one to caution young friends and family to think through marrying young because I realize how tough it is and that it takes a specific kind of person to be able to make the decisions and the sacrifices required to make a marriage work, especially at a young age.
Love your post, thank you so much for sharing! I was married at age 24 and we're celebrating 2 years this July and even with some tough times and situations we've had, I couldn't ask for anything better. We dated for 3 months and then were engaged for 3 months! I had coworkers ask me if I was pregnant … because, who gets married that fast?! I wasn't, but I didn't let it bother me. Our wedding day was our "first kiss" and people thought that was really weird too. A coworker was super surprised when after asking some questions, found out that we hadn't "tried each other out" and another, "what if he's not a good kisser? You want to be stuck with someone who's not a good kisser?" Marriage is so much more than that, and it shouldn't be the deciding factor. My husband and I are not LDS, but are Christians and I just told them that our goal was to glorify God in our marriage and this was one way we were going to do that!
I was 19, and my husband, 21. We've now been marries 20 years and I wouldn't trade it for the world! I think its good to marry young for many reasons.
I had just turned 20 in February when I got married in April. I got the same questions but 6 years and 1 4 year old later and I would not change a thing about it. We have had our ups and downs just like every marriage but when we work it out that just makes us that much stronger. Coming from a mother who was married and divorced 4 times it might seem like I would not ever want to get married but I saw those marriages as a learning experience of what not to do. I love my husband more each day and look forward to many more anniversaries together. Thanks for this read.
This is a beautiful post. My parents got married when my mom was 17, and they just celebrated 41 years together. Everyone asked my mom if the reason she got married so early was because she was pregnant. Well, I'm an only child, and I'm 29…you do the math. 😉 They just really loved each other.
Jan and I were just 17 when we married March 14, 1964. I had joined the RAF as a boy so evading the call up (draft) and being able to select a trade. Things were terrible in the world and likewise in our respective homes. We wanted time together before the world went BANG. Would I change anything – NO. I am married to my childhood sweetheart and the mother of my four children. Now we can reflect on times gone by and rejoice in each other's company. With 23 grandchildren (soon to be 24) and 4 great-grandchildren (another on the way) the phone never stops ringing. How many times in the day we are told we are loved is enormous. Those who said we were too young, and it will never last, were wrong – we just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary, something very few couples will ever experience. If you find the right mate for the future and you are mature enough, early marriage can be a blessing. We are sealed as one for eternity along with our, soon to be, 29 offspring. Now that is what I call happiness. Boy, am I glad that families can be forever.
I find it disconcerting that a young person is so willing to give up all of themselves. I wonder if the husband in this situation feels the same – would he have given up his name, identity, etc. if that's what society asked of him? The ages of 18-25 are the best time to really be selfish – in the best sense of the word. It's the time you should be making decisions about what's best for YOU, not a "we". Best education, best career, etc. How can you really know you're giving your best self to someone if you haven't given yourself the opportunity to change or grow and to find out who you are as an individual?
I also suspect that a large number of the people in favor of this also don't believe in sex before marriage – I've seen many a young marriage among religious people & it's obvious a large part of it is also about wanting to have sex.
Im getting marries at 19 and its good to see someone else feel like I do! This made me feel better because its not the usual comments like you said in the beginning. Its encouraging and amazing to know that other people feel the same
I'm so glad this is getting such a huge feedback- because it deserves it!! It makes me feel so less alone knowing that so many other people were married at 19 (for all the right reasons too!) and have no regrets! Being married young has it's hard times, but they are nothing compared to everything that is awesome about it. Thanks for writing this! SO many people, like me, appreciate it!
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I got married when I was 20 and my husband was 21. We got a lot of the same questions and while we haven't been married that long it has been one amazing journey. I found my match in him and even when times get hard I know he will always be there for me. We will married for two years this new years eve. Thank you for writting this, it was refreshing to read.
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I also married at 19, just barely 19. We had originally planned for the following year, but once we started planning and getting our life set in motion we realized that was too long to wait! So we moved up the wedding a year, at the 6 month mark! Talk about pregnancy questions! (;
We have been together since I was 14 and he was 16, we knew right away we wanted to be together forever. We were engaged (officially) at 17 and 19, but I always knew he was my forever. It's just this feeling you can't describe to someone else unless they've been there and felt that way themselves. All the questions of our sanity reaffirmed that we could in fact get married and move away to start fresh. We have been together for 8 yrs and married for 3 next month, we own our house and I'm going back for my second Bachelor's. It took some adjustment of our circle of friends because we're not your typical 20-something year olds we find ourselves hanging out with an older crowd, and sometimes we forget how old we are! We're still learning and growing together but there isn't any one else I could imagine facing this world with, he's my best friend and biggest fan; two of the most important qualities. <3
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It's funny… I could not be more opposite than you. I am nearly 30 and my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. People have given you a hard time for getting married too young, and people give us a hard time for not getting married! hah! I guess someone will always find something to complain about!
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I was married at 19 as well we have two beautiful children and have been married for 5 years. He was my first love and only love. I wouldn't change a thing on when I got married and had my 1st child because if we didn't do it when we did little did we know my husbands mother passed away only a year and half later. She got to meet our daughter and be with her for 8 short months. Love knows no age! If you love someone deeply and unconditionally it shouldn't matter.
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I absolutely love this article! I too married at 19. I met my husband through my high school friends. A couple years later, after occasionally seeing each other around, we just happen to meet up when we both were out with friends and we hit it off. I was living in England when I had met him and had plan to move back to the US. I had no intentions of staying in England anymore and was set on coming back. We fell in love out of no where. We were friends who had no idea we were falling in love. The day I was meant to move back to the US I told my family I wouldn't be coming. I was 18 at the time. I stayed in England for another year and we got married 7 months later. Now he has moved to the US with me and I wouldn't change a thing. We'll be married a year in June and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I too was married young. At 18 I graduated HS in May and Turned 18 in June and was married that Aug. This year it will be 13 years. 13 of the hardest, most rewarding, most tiring, best years of my life. There are so many people who claim their HS years as the best years of their life, well, I can say that being married is the best thing I have ever done. I just so happened to meet, my other half, my better half, the man who makes me better when I was only 15. He sees me at my best, and loves me at my worst. I love him more NOW at 30, then I even knew was possible at 18. I know couples who have waited and their marriages have not work, I know people who have married young and it has. People both young and old give up one marriages EVERYDAY! I have been so blessed to have been able to grow up with my husband. To grow with him. To change with him. I live everyday as it is a choice, because it is. I also love this quote, " A perfect Marriage is just TWO imperfect people, who refuse to give up on EACH OTHER." Live like that and it will not matter when, or how old you are, it just matters that you choose to live, and love. Thanks for sharing and I hope more people can see that marriage of any age will take work and time.
I really like your post. Well written! Bravo! But I disagree with one paragraph. I don't know if anyone else has commented on this because I didn't read through them.
This paragraph:
"I gave up my secrets: my weaknesses, my thoughts, my mistakes, the things I hid from the world, someone now would know. But, someone would also know exactly how to help me, love me, and comfort me. Someone would know me so well that they would know what I needed without me ever asking. I would lose all the hidden parts of me, and gain a perfect understanding and love from someone else."
I don't know how wonderful your spouse may be at this, but even if he's really good at it, he isn't perfect at it. I've learned that I cannot expect this from my husband and I never should because he is imperfect and cannot know me perfectly. The only one who can do that is my Savior. Jesus is the only one that knows all your secrets and weaknesses and understand perfectly. Your husband may try but he can not understand perfectly. You can't give him that prefect understanding either. But the Savior can. I just wanted to point that out.
Great post! I was married at 20 and going on 10 years of marriage now. It has been harder than expected but I wouldn't trade it for the world because of the things I have learned, the person I have before, and the love I have for my spouse now.
I was married in the temple at 20 after waiting for my husband to return from his mission. My family didn't think I'd wait. His entire family is absolutely insane and somehow he came out amazing and happy. After we were engaged, his dad tried to set him up on a date, and his mom has continuously harassed us about getting a divorce. They're the misery loves company type.
Satan works extremely hard to stop good things from happening and to make it harder for us to choose what's right.
He does this through other people sometimes. There were more than enough reasons why it would have been easier to just give up and move on. But 5 years happily married with an adorable 1 1/2 year old girl and I'm 9 weeks pregnant with the second. We have what anyone could ever dream a relationship could be. I love that man.
Our wedding song is "You're Still The One" by Shania Twain.
Aint nothin better,
we beat the odds together
I'm glad we didn't listen
Look at what we would be missin
They said
I'll bet
They'll never make it!
But just look at us goin on
We're still together
still goin strong
…
I'm so glad we made it
Look how far we've come now baby
I honestly tear up every time I hear it. I plan on this song being played at our 50th wedding anniversary. Because it is going to happen. I'm so glad we made it. Look how far we've come now baby!
Finally someone who explains it right! My fiance and I started dating when I turned 15.. my freshman year of high school and his sophomore year of High school(2011). He proposed my senior year of HS in Nov 2013, and I will be 19..almost 20 when we get married in Oct 2015. We will have been together almost 5 years once were married. I have gotten ALL of those comments about being young for this. I know what I want. He is all I've ever wanted, and nobody will change my mind. I had the same thoughts on this.Loved this post! (:
We married at 20. First child at 21. 2nd at 24. College graduation at 27. Married for almost 16 yrs. It hasn't been easy, but we've never been alone. What an adventure!
I got married at 19 and have been married 21 years and counting :o)
My wife was 19 when we married, I was 22. Plenty of people were worried about us but we had been in love for years already and knew it was right so why wait. That was over 25 years ago and they have been happy years.
Just came across your blog! I was married at 18 (my hubby was 23 at the time) and I am LDS as well. But I live in Canada and where we are, the church is not all that big. It was a big deal and I got all of those comments and more. It was tough especially when it was coming from loved ones but I knew it was right and I wasn't going to let any comments stop me from marrying my eternal companion! It has been 5 years now and we have two beautiful children and I wouldn't change a single thing!
Thank you for your post, the stigma of a "teenage bride" is a tough one to beat!
I, too, got married at 19. I pushed aside my worry and my doubt; a BYU devotional on the importance of marriage seemed like confirmation that marrying "my" RM in the temple was exactly what God wanted me to do. My husband's mental disorder, which was undiagnosed for many years, created real chaos in our marriage… and at 19 years old, my inability to create healthy boundaries was also a handicap. I'm glad that so many commenters here have found joy in their unions. I, too, have had moments of joy in my life. But I wasn't ready for marriage, and my husband and I have both been to Hell and back again. If your heart whispers worry in your ear, don't ignore it.
I got married at19 also, and we will be celebrating our 43 anniversary in August of this year. We are now on a Senior Mission serving the Lord and polishing up a great marriage, 5 children, 13 grandchildren. I would not have had it any other way.
Wonderful post! I really agree with you! I just turned 19 when I got married and… lot ot people asked me the same questions… a million times! And now it's been almost 3 years. It was on June 8th 2012. 🙂 And I don't regret a second of it either.
I'm really happy that everything worked out for you and I understand you posting this almost in defense against all of those people implying that getting married young is a lesser path.
However, I want to point out that you're almost implying that getting married young is a better path which isn't right either. I'm not married, so I wouldn't understand how selfless one needs to be in that situation but this post makes me feel like I'm selfish because I'm almost 25 and not married.
The truth is that I always thought I would marry before 21 but just haven't had the option yet. I'm happy with where my life has taken me and don't feel like I've only focused on me. Different things work for different people.
Again, I'm really happy for you and I'm not saying you're purposely making unmarried people feel bad. Just wanted to agree that no one should criticize the other side.
I wanted to share my thoughts on this post. I think it's great you found happiness and feel like you've gotten everything you can out of life by being married. I'm married now and I've never been happier. But I didn't get married until my late 20s.
The tone of your article makes it sound like everyone should be getting married when they're young, and if you wait, you're stupid, you won't be as blessed, and you'll never be truly as happy as if you did get married at 18. I wish there was something in there saying that this is what worked for me, but you too can be happy even if you're not 18. It just makes anyone that's not married feel bad, or those that waited feel inadequate because there must be something wrong with them.
I want to ask, did you really get asked a lot of these questions living in Utah your whole life? It seems most of the married women in my ward were pretty young when they got hitched, and no one really seems to care. I personally wouldn't want to get married that young, and I'm grateful for the experiences I had to make me a more mature and responsible adult before I decided to make me become we.
This is the kind of attitude that makes it hard for me to go to church each week. I did not serve a mission, I did not get my eagle scout, I don't have a part in my hair and wear a CTR ring. I didn't get my MBA from BYU and I never did summer sales for pest control like it seems 90% of guys my age have done. It's really hurtful when I get questions like why didn't you serve a mission? are you not spiritual enough? did you commit some horrible big sin that prevented you from going? Why are you so old and not married? Don't you know god commanded all men to go on missions, do you know better than God? Not fitting the mold is very, very hard living it Utah. I doubt you've felt like you don't belong in a room full of newlyweds that same age as you in Relief Society. Everyone will have a different love story, and it's great you found yours at 19, but don't think that just because people wait they aren't as good as you.
I got married at 26 and had those years to myself. I felt lonely. I spread myself around and found no happiness, just apprehension and misery. Instead of losing those years to someone whom I cared about, I wasted them on what I thought I wanted. The world doesn't know what true happiness is and they never will. That's how they can ask these silly questions to your face without knowing how happy you are and how miserable they are.
We grew up in the same rural area, had many of the same friends and never met while growing up although we were both at many of the same youth activities. We did meet a month after he got home of his mission, started dating a month later when she had gone to a dance hoping to link up with another recently returned RM, who turned out to be the "best man", and got married a month after that, with everyone wondering what we were thinking. Our first child was born only a month after she turned 20.
And now, 26 years and 5 kids later, we have laughed that one of our daughters who we thought was "too young" was actually 3 months older than she was when we got married. We are loving having time with our 4 grandkids (so far) while we are still young enough to enjoy them, and we are kind of saddened that we are sending our baby out on his mission in a few months. When you know it is the right thing to do, why go through all of the drama to "make sure?"
I am getting married in July, 2 months before my 20th birthday. I love hearing stories like yours because we too have heard all the "you're too young" comments, and they can be discouraging. But I am beyond thrilled to marry the man of my dreams and begin our life together! Thank you for sharing and for your encouragement. God Bless.
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I'm thinking it could be a problem with me but I've never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional drink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional drink. i know she is slightly overweight but that shouldn't affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunty, then i contact the man named dr odogun, he told me my problems will be over if only i just believe in him.i said ok and i agreed, after a week he send me a parcel through DHL and told me to give it to my wife to drink after making love to her which i deed as instructed. After 3 months my wife became pregnant. I know many people will not believe this but is a true life testimony. You
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AN Amazing Testimony On A Spell Caster Who help us to get a baby, So me and my wife have been trying to get a baby for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck. she don't have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when she is ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a baby have conceived within 2-3months of trying and it is really getting me and my wife had a fertility test about a year ago and the womb was fine.
I'm thinking it could be a problem with me but I've never had any symptoms of any problems. My partner does smoke and have the occasional drink, and i used to smoke and also have the occasional drink. i know she is slightly overweight but that shouldn't affect our chances too much,one faithful day my friend told me to contact a spell caster that help her aunty, then i contact the man named dr odogun, he told me my problems will be over if only i just believe in him.i said ok and i agreed, after a week he send me a parcel through DHL and told me to give it to my wife to drink after making love to her which i deed as instructed. After 3 months my wife became pregnant. I know many people will not believe this but is a true life testimony. You
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Loved the article… I feel the same
He is 18 and I am 17 we have only been together for a little over six months but we have planned out our entire life together. I've had some pretty bad issues with guys in the past but whenever I kick and scream and have a tantrum he only wipes my tears away and holds me. He is never angry at me and he just helps me … Helps me grow … I love him… I want to marry him so much I want to be his only his for the rest of my life… Only issue is my parents they are all 28 you get married. But me and him are planing to do a secret wedding when I turn 18 which would be only two days before our one year anniversary we will be in college but we want to get married. I'm jus so scared about my parents… Any advice?
I know I want him. He is everything to me I can't imagine a day without him. I get lost in his eyes and when I say I want to go home I just want to be in his arms. He takes all my pain away… I love him…
Ok I'll stop talking now XD any advice would be great so happy it worked out for you!
Love this post! I married my best friend at the young age of 18! Everyone thought I was crAzy! Haha! We have been happily married now for 21 years, have 5 kids and have supported each other through school and law school. I wouldn't change my life. So glad that I listened to my heart that beautiful September day when he proposed to me. I knew he was the "one" from the day I first met him. Only 2 weeks prior to our enagement…yep Crazy!!! 😍
Mrs. Craig
I cannot Thank you enough for this post. My girlfriend and I are 18 and 20 respectively, and have been given serious thought to getting married. Obviously there are alot of concerns, and quite a bit of pressure not to from society at large. However, we are convinced that we are in love, and we have the blessings of both my mom and the man I think of as my father, and her entire family thinks I'm pretty much perfect for her. Their support is wonderful. Unfortunately, my mom and dad were married at 18, had me at 19, and stayed together for 18 years before a messy divorce; not the greatest model and one that makes me question my decision to marry young.
This article has given me renewed confidence in my decision and in our ability to make this work. Thank you so much, and I wish you a continued happy, successful, and blessed marriage!
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2weeks to my welding the man in my life left me and no where to be found. i searched his business places & lot of his friends no one was able to identify were he is i ran scepter to scepter looking for him everywhere,his phone was switched off a week after no one could find him, and i went to stay with his parents having sleepless night a week plus i found a lot of spiritual prophet & Dr. online & i emailed up to five of them if they can help me to find my man, the only one who bring back my man was Dr okaka and he told me my step mum was responsible for everything that happened to me she was the one who pushed my man out with her devilish charms. Dr okaka told me he will restore back my marriage. the very night Dr did it the next morning my man came back & we got married 2days after. i don't know how to thank Dr okaka here is the only way i could thank him a lot to shear his name and email all over the world. greatokakaodighispellhome@gmail.com i thank you for restoring back my marriage.
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I'm getting married now at 23 and I still get these questions! I loved this post, I found it so aligned with my own perspective. I
I am just reading your article and it is so true. I graduated when I was 17 and was already dating my husband through my Junior and Senior year. We decided to get married a year after I graduated which put me 3 months shy of 19. I can happily say that we are still married to this day after almost 19 years and without kids. I will say you do have to work at relationships as they will have there ups and downs but in the long run it will always make you stronger.
How to Get Your Ex Back After a Breakup or Divorce.! Am giving this testimony cos am so happy, I want to thank Dr Frank Ojo for the great thing he has done in my life , he brought happiness to my life .! A very big problem occurred in my Marriage seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce. he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited. TEMPLEOFLOVEANDPROSPERITY@GMAIL.COM. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day. What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me, and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past 7 months, gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back. So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster. So, i will advice you out there if you have any problem contact Dr Frank Ojo, i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you.. Email Him @: Templeofloveandprosperity@gmail.com . My name is Amanda Bryan, me & my family live in Toronto, Canada. Thanks for reading, and best of luck!
After being in relationship with him for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drajascospellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:drajascospellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM
My name is Ruth Moore from uk. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.OYINBO he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is prophetoyinbojesus@yahoo.com
My name is Ruth Moore from uk. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.OYINBO he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is prophetoyinbojesus@yahoo.com
I can't say Doctor Osemu Okpamen is the almighty GOD but he's a GOD on earth. Why i said that is because he helped me to get back my husband that divorced me 3 years back living my hopeless with nothing. I searched for local helps around but nothing good showed up. So, i decided to go into the internet in search of help and i discovered that Doctor Osemu Okpamen was been praised globally for his good works. I decided to get in touch with him for assistance and he prepared a spell for me and assured me that my husband will come back to me within 12 to 16 hours i was skeptical about it but i had no choice than to believe in his words. To my greatest surprise, my husband called me and started pleading that he was coming back home and today, we are living as one big happy family again. Am Tracie Aldana from Kentucky USA and here is cell number +1270-946-9415. Get in touch with him now if you need any help either by Email: Doctorokpamenspelltemple@hotmail.com, Website: http://doctorokpamenpowerfulspelltemple.webs.com OR what'sapp on +2348135254384.
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My husband broke up with me last week, i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady and this lady i think use wirchcraff on my husband to make him hate me and my kids and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helper to get back my man until i went to NY to see a friend and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa name Dr.Unity that he help with love spell in getting back lost lover back and i decided to contacted the same Dr.Unity and he told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr told me that i will get the result after 48hours, and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 9pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much, Oh My God i was so happy, and today i am happy with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity of Unityspelltemple@gmail.com , he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr.Unity is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity on his email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com and he will answer you, i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr.Unity i say thank you in one million times thanks.
My husband broke up with me last week, i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady and this lady i think use wirchcraff on my husband to make him hate me and my kids and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helper to get back my man until i went to NY to see a friend and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa name Dr.Unity that he help with love spell in getting back lost lover back and i decided to contacted the same Dr.Unity and he told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr told me that i will get the result after 48hours, and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 9pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much, Oh My God i was so happy, and today i am happy with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity of Unityspelltemple@gmail.com , he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr.Unity is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity on his email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com and he will answer you, i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr.Unity i say thank you in one million times thanks.
My husband broke up with me last week, i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady and this lady i think use wirchcraff on my husband to make him hate me and my kids and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helper to get back my man until i went to NY to see a friend and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa name Dr.Unity that he help with love spell in getting back lost lover back and i decided to contacted the same Dr.Unity and he told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr told me that i will get the result after 48hours, and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 9pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much, Oh My God i was so happy, and today i am happy with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity of Unityspelltemple@gmail.com , he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr.Unity is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity on his email: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com and he will answer you, i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr.Unity i say thank you in one million times thanks.
I'm giving a testimony about DR Aziegbe the great Herbalist, he has the cure to all manner of diseases, he cured my herpes simplex virus, though I went through different website I saw different testimonies about different spell casters and herbalist, I was like: 'Many people's have the herpes simplex virus cure why are people still suffering from it?' I though of it, then I contact DR Aziegbe via email, I didn't believe him that much, I just wanted to give him a try, he replied my mail and Needed some Information about me, then I sent them to him, he prepared it (CURE) and sent it to me through Airfreight Online Courier Service for delivery, he gave my details to the Courier Office, they told me that 2-3 days I will receive the parcel and i took the medicine as prescribed by him and I went for check-up 2 week after finishing the medicine, I was tested herpes simplex virus negative, if you are herpes simplex virus patient do me a favor by you contacting him and I assure anyone who is suffering it,your problem will never remain the same again you will be cured.ALSO DR Aziegbe help my sister husband to cure his HIV/AIDS he was suffering from it for the past 3 years, After he {cure} my herpes simplex virus, then my sister heard about it, she went home to tell her husband about DR aziegbe then her husband email him and explain his problem to him, he also prepare herbal medicine and he use Airfreight courier service to sent him the herbal medicine and he instruct him on how he will be using it for 14 days, That on the 15 days of it, he should go and check his self in the hospital and he did as he was instructed by DR Aziegbe to GOD be the glory he was cure of his HIV/AIDS which he was suffering from for the past 3 years thanks to these great man we will ever remain grateful to you sir indeed might work you did in our families. When you contact him, make sure you tell him that I refer you.. contact him via: DRAZIEGBEHERBALHOMEOFSOLUTION@GMAIL.COM
Hi everyone,fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i got my husband back after a divorce!!!
I am Natasha Hayes by name and i reside here in United States of America.I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
Hi everyone,fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i got my husband back after a divorce!!!
I am Natasha Hayes by name and i reside here in United States of America.I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
Hi everyone,fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i got my husband back after a divorce!!!
I am Natasha Hayes by name and i reside here in United States of America.I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
Hi everyone,fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i got my husband back after a divorce!!!
I am Natasha Hayes by name and i reside here in United States of America.I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
Hi everyone,fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i got my husband back after a divorce!!!
I am Natasha Hayes by name and i reside here in United States of America.I'm happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
Hi everyone, fix your broken relationship and marriage right now no matter how hopeless your situation seems!! I am so excited sharing my testimony with everyone here about how i saved my marriage and got my husband back after a divorce..I am Natasha Hayes by name and i live in England. I'm a happily married to a lovely and caring husband ,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my husband .so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce.he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{Unityspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past{7}months,gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our marriage was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster Dr Unity. So, i will advice you out there, if you have any problem contact Dr Unity and i guarantee you that he will help you and you will be the next to share your testimony to every one in the world!!. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or call him on: +2348072370762.
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After being in relationship with him for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drosedebamenspellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:drosedebamenspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM
my is Soraya I am so happy to let the whole word know how this powerful spell caster saved my marriage. Everything was going down the drain as my husband can not stop cheating on me with other women. It became used to always heating on me. I tried to make him stop, but I couldn’t help the situation, the more I tried, the harder it becomes. At times we will fight and go apart for some months and we will come back again just because of our kids. One day a friend told me about this spell caster who helped her too, his name is Dr.Ancient she said he uses white magic spells to solve spiritual problems. I decided to give it a try, I contacted him and he told me it will take just 2 to 3 days and I will see great changes in my husband. He actually cast aspell, believe me after 2 to 3 days of the spell, my husband was confessing different names of woman he has slept with. He begged for forgiveness and never to try it again. From that day still now, my mind is at rest. My husband dislike every other women on earth except me. And am so happy to have him for myself alone. The spell caster’s contact is ancientbeninshrine@gmail.com
Hi my name is Kate Clancy, I’m 24 years old. My ex boyfriend he broke up with me 5 weeks ago. I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant. We were together for 7 years (engaged the last). The day he broke up with me he said he “wanted to find himself, wanted to be free, and was confused if he still wanted to be with me or not.” I was devastated but was cool and calm because he’s been dealing with depression for 4 years and I think the news of our pregnancy broke him. I knew he was unhappy with himself because he got in a real bad car accident 4 years ago that changed his life. He lost his football scholarship, the chance to go to school, and hasn’t been able to find a job. When he broke up with me he said that he loves me and always will love me. When he decided to split I decided I wouldn’t contact him because he wanted space, but he calls me at least once a day to check on me. At times he offers to do favors for me like being me things when I’m sick and wash my car. I agree to let him do these things for me because I miss him so much and it seems like everytime I see him he still kisses me and tells me he loves me. He still wants to go to all our sons check up and I do invite him to them. I’m trying to be strong but his actions are confusing me. This was the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with.i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it, then he did a Lover-spell for me. 28 hours later, my bf came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my bf are living together happily again..All thanks to Dr Unity. If you have any problem contact Dr.Unity now and i guarantee you that he will help you..Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com ,you can also call him or add him on whats-app:+2348071622464 ,his website:http://unityspelltemple.webs.com
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